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Etiquette rules: how to eat tricky foods? Etiquette: basic general rules of conduct at the table What to eat with a spoon according to etiquette.

Now let's talk about how to behave culturally at the table. Most importantly, do not "boot": everything is not as scary and difficult as you think.

Keep in mind that insecurity is usually associated with inability, so the most reliable remedy for shyness is to learn all the rules of etiquette and successfully apply them in practice.

First of all, if you do not know how to use numerous cutlery, then the main thing is not to get lost, just look at how others use them and repeat after them.

And do not look around so desperately, calm down. Then no one will notice your confusion.

Secondly x, no one will eat you if you do something wrong.

Think less of yourself, your beloved, and do not imagine that you are the center of everyone's attention. Nobody expects something supernatural from you.

Thirdly, you and your girlfriends could arrange a small rehearsal (for example, before an important celebration, go to a small cafe and repeat everything again in a narrow circle there).

We would like to stipulate right away that the position in which you will sit throughout the evening must be chosen in advance, and such that you can sit in this position for at least an hour and feel great at the same time.

The question immediately arises: how to put your feet? It is forbidden to cross one leg at the table; changing their position under the table, you run the risk of overturning the entire table.

Legs stretched forward so that you touch people sitting on the opposite side of the table, they say that you do not know how to sit beautifully.

It is best to bend your knees at a right angle and place your feet parallel. This is the most comfortable and decent position.

So, you are in a cafe. After long conversations, the appetite is always strongly played out. But don't rush into eating.

While we were talking, you already managed to make a small mistake: pushing a chair, you dragged it across the floor, scratching and creaking your legs.

I think that the owners of the cafe hardly liked it, and the floors did not become more beautiful because of this. Just lift up your chair and your musical ear won't be affected by scratchy sounds.

Leaning or putting your elbows on the table is also not worth it. If the situation allows, you can put your palms on the edge of the table and lean over so that your friends can clearly hear everything you say to them.

But keep your elbows close to yourself so as not to cause inconvenience to your neighbors.

While you and your friends are waiting for your order, you can look around a bit and chat.

But this does not mean that you need to turn your whole body to each other, talk loudly and giggle.

Of course, you really want to gossip about that handsome guy who is sitting at the next table, but do not forget that not everyone likes to be the object of discussion, however, you yourself do not like it. Therefore, you must behave modestly.

But here the waiter places all kinds of plates, saucers on the table, lays out knives and forks. You can start your first test.

Don't worry, we will help you deal with it without much difficulty.

First, unfold the napkin. Do not rush to repeat the grand gestures of the movie heroes of the past: a napkin tucked into the collar is no longer appropriate, modern ladies spread it on their knees.

Do you remember, in one famous film, the main character, a poor and uneducated boy, was invited to a chic dinner in high society.

He was completely at a loss, but his girlfriend came to his aid and suggested that you need to start using cutlery from the most extreme, gradually moving towards the plate (a very simple and wise observation).

You, too, can take advantage of this advice. If you were invited to a dinner party, you simply cannot do without our recommendations.

A dessert device is placed in front of the plate: knives, spoons, forks.

Sometimes they are limited only to a dessert spoon, but if there are several dessert dishes, then there will be several dessert appliances, respectively.

In order not to get confused, remember that all the devices that are closer to the plate are for main dishes, and those that are outside are for snacks.

Even one cutlery needs to be able to use it correctly.

All devices that lie on the left, take with your left hand, and devices located on the right, with your right.

The arrangement of dessert cutlery will tell a savvy girl like you how to use them correctly.

A bad impression is made by people who do not know how to use knives. Therefore, even at home, when eating alone, use all cutlery correctly.

Let's talk about each cutlery in more detail.

A tablespoon is intended exclusively for soup. Each salad bowl has a special spoon, which you can put a little salad on your plate.

It is strictly forbidden to climb into a common dish with your spoon.

A knife is necessary in order to eat meat, some vegetables.

But they never eat fish with a knife (except for pickled or smoked), cutlets, pasta, vermicelli, pudding, do not cut bread, pancakes, dumplings.

You need to know how to use a knife. Perplexed glances are caused by a man who grinds all the food on his plate with a knife, then puts it aside, shifts the fork from his left hand to his right and begins to eat.

Remember that after cold appetizers, soup is served. The second is usually a meat dish with a vegetable side dish, so you will definitely find on the table, in addition to a spoon, also a fork and a knife.

At the end of dinner, dessert appears on the table: ice cream, coffee, fruit.

Soup was brought to you, but for some reason not in a bowl, as you used to, but in a cup. Maybe you should drink it like coffee? Not at all, soup or broth served in cups is also eaten with a spoon, holding it in the right hand, with the left holding the cup by the handle.

Do not blow on too hot soup. Remember also that tilting the plate to finish the leftover soup is considered bad manners.

Only the rest of the broth in the cup you can freely drink, putting a spoon on a saucer.

If meat with bones was served before the soup, then first you should carefully separate them, and only then pour the broth into the plate.

Don't lean too low over the table - it's ugly: you will ruin your posture, and your friends may get the impression that you are more passionate about food than communicating with them.

Do not rush to eat everything at once, so as not to look at your companions with hungry eyes and not to rush them.

Direct the spoon into your mouth with the side part, tilting slightly towards you, holding it with your thumb and forefinger.

In this case, the middle finger is used as a support.

You will not experience any difficulties with main courses if you remember that large pieces of meat should not be cut immediately, but only as needed.

You won't need a knife at all if you're going to eat goulash or egg dishes. The exception is fried eggs, which you will have to cut open.

The side dish should be eaten in small portions, grabbing it with a fork and helping if necessary with a knife. Without a knife, you can also eat pasta, vermicelli, fish, pudding or vegetables.

But remember, no matter how delicious the sauce is, licking the plate or picking up delicious leftovers with the help of a bread crust is still not worth it.

Do you think that a bun from a dish should be taken with a fork?

Then, slowly, break off small pieces from it and gently bring them to your mouth.

When small pies and buns are served with fish dishes or soup, do not cut them with a knife or dip them into the broth.

For canapes and sandwiches, forks and knives are not needed at all: they should be carefully taken with your hands, trying not to touch the rest of the servings.

You have already learned some of the rules, but also make sure that your meal takes place in a pleasant environment.

What do you think should be done to make lunch or dinner memorable for a long time?

1. Scatter bread crumbs around the table.

2. Pour cocoa.

3. Do not talk while eating.

4. Thank the mistress of the house or the staff of the cafe.

5. Pour soup over the wall.

6. Talk loudly to your tablemate.

7. Fall off a chair a couple of times.

Some of the answers will probably make you laugh. You know what you shouldn't do. Only very small and ill-bred children behave like this.

In any section of etiquette, great importance is attached to manners and gestures. With their help, you can make your life easier or, conversely, cause yourself and others a lot of trouble.

Perhaps you should learn the meaning of some gestures that would be appropriate to apply at the table at home or in a cafe.

If you put your knife and fork on a plate parallel to each other for a while, don't be surprised if the waiter removes your device from the table. Remember that this is how you can arrange them on a plate if you have already finished your meal.

But what to do if you want to tell your friends something interesting, but while eating with your mouth full (it's good that you remember!) This should not be done?

The answer is simple: put the device on a plate crosswise. In this case, the knife should lie with the tip to the left, and the fork with the convex side up. (The easiest way is to imagine a clock face instead of a plate, the “hand” - the knife will point to the number “five” on an imaginary clock, and the handle of the fork will point to “seven”.)

If it seems to you that game should be eaten with your hands, then you are deeply mistaken. When you eat poultry meat, you will have to use not only a fork, but also a knife for these purposes.

Of course, the knife should be taken in the right hand, and the fork in the left and carefully separate the meat from the bones.

Do you want to say something? Wait, chew first. A person who speaks with his mouth full does not look very nice, and your friends are unlikely to be able to understand your speech without an interpreter.

So that you finally remember what and how to eat, we will consider the rules of etiquette using the most common dishes as an example.

For example, meat with mashed potatoes can be eaten in two ways: just cut off small pieces of meat, holding them with a fork (it should be positioned prongs down), and with the same fork, carefully take some potatoes and send this tasty portion directly to your mouth.

The second way was invented by the Americans, people who are practical and always in a hurry.

Everything is much simpler here: using a fork and a knife, immediately cut the meat into pieces. Then you can put down the knife and continue with just the fork.

Fish can be eaten without using a knife, but in some cases, for example, when you were served boiled fish, you should cut it with the help of two forks, and sometimes with the help of a knife that is included in the fish utensil.

Very rarely fish is eaten using only a knife. For example, the skin of a smoked eel can only be carefully separated from the meat with a knife.

And marinated fish is easier and more convenient to eat with a complete fish utensil.

Boiled fish is served to the table very often, so you must master the skills of its use to perfection.

To do this, you will need a set of two forks, or a special fish utensil. Don't rush to get rid of the bones right away - it can wait for now.

It is better to "undress" the fish first: carefully remove the skin and separate the meat from the bones on the top of the fish. After you finish eating the peeled part, turn the fish over to the other side and repeat everything you have already done.

In this case, the bones of the ridge should remain intact. If you use two forks, send the next portion to your mouth with the one that is in your right hand.

Most often, people refuse fish dishes because of small bones that are difficult to detect and, accordingly, remove.

Don't worry if you feel a small bone in your mouth, carefully remove it on a fork and put it on the edge of your plate.

Rice is usually eaten with a fork unless it is in a Chinese restaurant. Few people know how to use special chopsticks, therefore, if any are served, it is quite acceptable to ask for a fork for yourself (it’s better to own it well than to make people laugh by pouring rice anywhere but in your mouth!).

For overcooked rice, you can use a spoon.

Pate should be eaten with a fork, and a spoon or knife is used only when the product is spread on bread or rolls. In between meals, you can relax and look around. No need to sculpt bread balls or crumple napkins.

In addition to being uncivilized, you may well need both.

Break - the best time in order to take care of yourself, fix your makeup. By the way, in order to “powder your nose”, you should use the bathroom at a party, and in a cafe - a ladies’ room, where you can go, after warning your companions and asking for forgiveness for the absence.

But don't stay away for too long - that's just disrespectful. Never use a toothpick at the table! If you feel discomfort, it is better to go out for a while.

Hot meals are not usually served for dinner. Dinner is a defile of cold appetizers: cold meat, salads, cheese, bread.

Food is often served at youth parties fast food, so there are sausages, too, must be able to.

Do not rush to take them with your hands - this is, of course, easier, but not always more convenient: firstly, they can be hot and slip out of your hands, and secondly, from the outside it does not look very nice. Therefore, it is better to use a knife and fork.

Cutlets, meatballs and other minced meat products should only be eaten with a fork.

You already understood that almost all meat dishes are eaten with a knife and fork. What if the roast was served uncut? Just cut it yourself, holding it with a fork.

What else would you like to try from the holiday menu, maybe a new salad? It is not at all necessary to reach out to him across the table, dropping glasses of juice or soiling your sleeves in mustard.

Better ask your friend, who is sitting on the other side of the table, to put some of the selected dish on your plate. Thanking him for the service, you can give him a charming smile and offer him fish in aspic, the dish with which is right in front of you.

Potatoes are served to the table in different variations: fried, stewed, mashed ... What if they brought them in uniform?

What should you do to get to the delicious crumbly pulp without trouble? That's right, first you need to get rid of the peel.

But how to do this so that the potatoes do not fly to the floor or, even worse, in the face of a neighbor?

To begin with, carefully stick a fork into your potato (just be careful, try not to break the tuber ahead of time!), Then take the knife in your right hand and peel it off.

Then break the tuber into pieces with the edge of a fork (but do not mash it to eat the rest of the sauce on the plate).

Remember that all boiled vegetables should be chopped only with a fork!

This dish is often served with green peas; eating it with a fork is inconvenient - it rolls down, and with a spoon - ugly. What to do?

Just string a few peas on the tines of a fork and eat in peace. Well done, you're doing great!

Your friend is not averse to tasting the salad and asks for the one in the massive vase next to you. Of course, you are always happy to do a favor for your beloved friend, but maybe you should not give her the whole vase, otherwise both of her hands will be busy.

How will she take care of herself? You may have to hold the dish until she fills her plate.

Continuing our conversation about good manners, we suggest that you remember a few more simple table manners.

Hold the cup with compote in your right hand, holding it with your left. If there are bones in the dried fruit compote, discreetly put them in a spoon, and then carefully transfer them to a socket that is served specifically for this purpose.

Do not think that fresh apples or pears are easier to eat: only in the circle of close friends you could easily take a ruddy fruit with your hands and bite off a good half of it, and special cutlery is provided for fruit at receptions or in a cafe.

First of all, you need to cut the fruit into four or more pieces and peel. Only then can you carefully eat the peeled slices with a fruit knife and fork.

Cut the orange peel in several places along the length, then it will be much easier to peel it.

Tangerines can be peeled by hand. Before eating plums, break the fruit with your hands and remove the stone, and pick the grapes from the brush with your hands.

Watermelon should be eaten with a fork, cut with a knife into portioned pieces, but melon should be eaten with a spoon. Bananas should be peeled, cut into small circles and eat with a fork.

Strawberry stalks will come in handy for you to gently hold them and bring the berry to your mouth.

And peaches, apricots, kiwi and other similar fruits with a peel should not be eaten - first peel them, remove the stone, if you want - cut into pieces.

If the cheese was served to the table in one piece, cut off a slice from it with a special knife and, using a spatula or fork designed for this purpose, put it on your plate.

Usually, after a light breakfast or a hearty lunch, guests are offered tea or coffee.

Trying to seem well-mannered, you should not hold a cup with your little finger sticking out. On the contrary, it is considered bad manners.

Please note that prudent hosts served dessert and teaspoons, designed to stir sugar in a drink, or for jam.

Another nuance: you can’t take sugar with your own spoon; for this purpose, a common spoon is placed in the sugar bowl. Refined sugar should be taken with tweezers.

If sugar does not dissolve in a cup for a long time, do not try to crack it with a spoon, otherwise you risk pouring tea on your neighbor on the table.

It is worth waiting until it dissolves on its own, and then stir with a spoon, while trying not to touch it with the edges of the cup.

After all these procedures, be sure to remove the spoon from the cup.

If the menu includes cake and cream cakes, a spoon will definitely come in handy. You can eat the cake with a fork or spoon, and you need to start from the edge that is closer to you.

If the cakes are on a small paper napkin, then you can transfer one of them to your plate directly with a napkin. Pies and cookies must be taken by hand.

Cake or baba should be eaten in small pieces, breaking them off with your hands. Eclairs and donuts can be bitten off with hands or eaten with a fork.

If you opted for sweets, then keep in mind that you first need to put the candy on your plate or unfold the candy wrapper in the candy outlet.

Do you like ice cream? Having ordered a portion for yourself, do not rush to eat it right away, wait until it melts, otherwise your efforts to try at least a piece will resemble the work of a climber.

Probably, you had to try some dish for the first time.

When this happens, it's best to first look at how others eat it.

There are a lot of exotic dishes in the stock of any hostess or in the restaurant menu, so you should have an idea of how to eat them correctly.

You are used to the fact that cultured people eat almost everything with a fork and knife. Oysters are a rare exception to the rules of good manners.

Imagine sucking them out of their shells! They are served at the table on special in-depth trays with ice. Usually one serving does not exceed five or six pieces.

It is necessary to open the shell with a special oyster fork, then remove the growth around the core of the oysters with a blunt edge, holding the shell with the thumb and forefinger of the left hand.

With the sharp part of the fork, separate the oyster from the shell, then remove the gills (they are darker in color).

Sprinkle it with lemon juice and suck the oyster out of the shell as quietly as possible. It is permissible to eat oysters with a fork.

Let's continue our conversation with information about cancers. They are served to the table in a dish of hot water, from where they are taken out as needed with a slotted spoon or by hand. The shell is split with a special knife.

In the middle of the blade of this knife there is a hole where the cancer claw is inserted, which must be broken, and the paws are also dealt with. Then they eat meat out of them (claws and paws).

With the left hand, they take the front part of the torso of the crayfish, while holding the back part of the carcass with the right hand and, rotating, separate them from each other.

They bring the neck of the cancer to the mouth with their hands, remove the white meat from the rest of the cancer with a knife (you should also take it with your hands).

But crayfish are not always served boiled. Sometimes only crayfish broth is put on the table, which is drunk from cups or bread crumbs are dipped into it.

Similarly, it is customary to eat lobsters and lobsters. Only for them there is a special cutlery. After splitting the shell, use a special lobster fork (with a hook at one end) to remove the meat from the shell and scoop out the juice (the spoon is on the other end of the fork).

Lobster claws are very strong, so they are split with tongs and eaten with a fork.

The meat of the back of the lobster is also eaten with a fork or a special spoon. Lobster is always served with whipped butter or mayonnaise, in which the meat is dipped.

Empty shells of lobsters and crayfish are usually put on a dish or a special plate. If for some reason you feel uncomfortable doing this, you can put them on your plate or napkin.

Black and red (ketova) caviar is served directly in a jar or vase with ice.

With a special fork or knife, caviar is spread on toasted toasts, previously buttered, and poured with lemon juice on top. They eat these sandwiches with their hands.

The rules of etiquette in society are the ability to behave in all situations in which a person can find himself. AT modern world it is extremely important to know them, to have good manners in order to be pleased with yourself and others, to treat all people with respect, affability, benevolence, naturally. So that any, even the best elite society, willingly accepts you into its ranks.

Interpretation of the term

Etiquette in modern society- a list of generally accepted rules that relate to human behavior in relation to other people in certain life situations.

There are several main types of such rules.

The ability to present oneself - the rules for the formation of a wardrobe, appearance, self-care, physical form and posture, gait, postures, gestures.
Speech etiquette - the ability to correctly say greetings, compliments, thanks, give remarks; farewell rules, politeness,
Table etiquette - manners at the table, serving standards, the ability to eat.
Rules of etiquette in society - how to behave in a museum, at an exhibition, in a theater, restaurant, court, library, shop, office, etc.
Business etiquette - relationships with colleagues, superiors, good business manners, leadership skills, etc.

Ability to present yourself

Good manners, the rules of etiquette, the ability to be a kind person - all this requires not only skills, but also knowledge in these areas. Modern man should know how to behave in any circumstances, be able to behave accordingly, be amiable, friendly and self-confident.

Etiquette in clothes

The first impression is the strongest and most memorable, and in addition, the mind is manifested in the choice of clothing for the occasion. To produce good impression It's not enough to be fashionable or expensively dressed. If you want to please others, you must reckon with them and take into account different circumstances. Therefore, even in the formation of a wardrobe, it is customary to observe the rules of etiquette in society. It is important that the clothes are beautiful and fit you, but it is much more important that all the details appearance organically combined with each other, and he himself corresponded to the time, place and situation. It is not customary to wear evening dresses during the day, and to wear leisure clothes to work. Each time, choosing what to wear, you must take into account the situation, the appropriate occasion, time, place, do not forget about your own age, body features. Everything you wear should always be clean, hemmed, buttoned and ironed. The exit attire should always be in full readiness. When shaping your wardrobe, remember to include must-have items such as suits, tailored trousers and skirts, blouses and evening wear, and home kits.

Personal care

Good manners are mandatory compliance cleanliness of clothes proper nutrition and healthy lifestyle life. It is unacceptable to appear in society unkempt. At the same time, it is important to monitor the appearance in the complex, carefully removing the hair, going out into the "light". These are mandatory rules of etiquette and behavior for a girl, as well as for a man.

Good manners in society

The ability to present oneself begins with gait, posture, gestures, postures, manners of sitting and sitting. The rules of etiquette in society require a beautiful gait with a straight posture, when the arms do not move widely in the rhythm of the step, the shoulders are straightened, the stomach is tucked up. You can not lift your head high, but you should not walk with your head down. Equally important are postures and gestures. To make a good impression, you need to act simply and naturally. It is considered bad manners to turn something in your hands, twist your hair around your finger, drum your fingers on the table, stamp your feet to the beat of the music, touch any parts of your body with your hands, pull on someone else's clothes. As for the question of how to sit correctly, it is important to know only two rules here: do not cross your legs and do not fall apart, spreading your legs and arms to the sides.

Speech etiquette

Polite words are special formulas in which a large amount of information is encrypted, both semantic and emotional. It is necessary to know them by heart, to be able to choose the most appropriate for the occasion and pronounce them in the appropriate tone in time. Masterly, correct possession of these words is speech etiquette in modern society.

1. Greeting

When choosing a form of greeting, put enough meaning and feeling into the words. For example, you would not be very delicate when you say “good afternoon” to a person whose face shows that he is upset about something. Or it’s completely unacceptable to say hello to the boss, except in cases of personal friendship. Be attentive to words and people - when greeting them, call them by name or by name and patronymic. Men must accompany each other with a handshake. When meeting with a lady, a gallant gentleman kisses her hand, while he should not pull her towards him, but should bend as far as the woman gave her hand.

2. Appeal, presentation

Which of the appeals is preferable, you have to decide in each case, depending on the audience you are addressing. It is customary to address acquaintances by name or by name and patronymic, the second is considered a manifestation of greater respect. In a formal setting, when introducing anyone, state the first and last name. And addressing by patronymic, for example, Ivanovna, is permissible only in the village, but not in secular society.

3. Requests

The word "please" is really magical, it must be heard in all requests. Since the request in one way or another burdens the person to whom you are addressing, in some cases it is worth adding: “If it’s not difficult for you”, “Is it not difficult for you?” It is also appropriate to say: "Do me a favor, be kind, could you," etc.

4. Farewell

Before you say goodbye, you should prepare the interlocutor for parting: "It's already late", "Unfortunately, I have to go." It is then customary to express satisfaction with the time spent together, such as "I'm glad we met." The next stage of farewell is words of gratitude. Sometimes you can say a compliment to the mistress of the house, say goodbye and immediately leave without delay.

In addition, the rules of etiquette in society require the ability to invite, apologize, console, express condolences, gratitude. Each of these forms of address should sound natural, sincere, excluding rude and harsh phrases and phrases.

Table etiquette

Eating beautifully is just as important as moving and speaking well, but it is here that one must especially observe the measure.

No need to try to deliberately embellish the process of eating, for example, eat in very small pieces, set aside bent fingers. It is enough not to open your mouth while chewing, not to talk with your mouth full, to chew food thoroughly before putting another portion in your mouth.
Never drink until you have swallowed the food, unless you have taken hot food in your mouth unexpectedly. If you see that the food is hot, do not blow on it before you start eating.
Try to eat and drink absolutely silently.
In society, bread is eaten not by biting off the whole piece, but by breaking off pieces from it.
Salt from an open salt shaker, if there is no special spoon in it, is supposed to be taken with the end of a clean knife, after pouring it on the edge of your plate.
Ketchup or mustard as a condiment is offered only in the most casual atmosphere.
When eating, try not to stain your plate as much as possible, do not stir or smear food on it.
Never, even at home, eat with your hands. It is customary to hold the fork in the left hand, and the knife in the right. If you are eating a salad, then you can take the fork with your right hand.
If you want to drink or take a break from eating, then you need to leave the fork and knife in a crosswise or "house" position.
The spoon is always taken with the right hand, if you eat from a soup bowl, the spoon is left there after eating, not laid out on the table.
At the end of the meal and before drinking, it is customary to use a napkin.

Etiquette: rules of conduct in society and public places

In public places, there are some specific rules of good taste, which are extremely important to observe.

1. In a museum, at an exhibition, a vernissage

The rules of conduct in these "temples" of art all over the world are the same and extremely simple: walk through the halls quietly, speak in a hushed tone, do not touch anything with your hands, do not get too close to the paintings and exhibits so as not to disturb other visitors.

2. In the theater, philharmonic, concert hall

Modern rules of good manners are somewhat contradictory. Previously, a man had to invite ladies to such public places, today it is considered quite decent if a girl herself invites him to a performance, a concert. And even if it is she who pays for tickets for two. A well-bred man should play the role of a gallant gentleman, courting a lady everywhere. It is important to arrive on time, undress calmly, take a seat without disturbing anyone. People with impeccable upbringing should not chew anything while watching.

3. In court, church, clinic, library

The rules of etiquette and good manners in society urge you to behave in these places as quietly and inconspicuously as possible. You can not talk, rustle, chew and walk without special need. Questions and inquiries should be answered politely and in a low voice.

In any establishment, it is important to maintain good manners, to be accommodating, tactful and polite. Most importantly, your stay should not cause discomfort to any of those present.

Business Etiquette

Good manners at work - required condition for every worker. What points are affected Business Etiquette? Easy rules will help to understand this issue.

Compliance with subordination with colleagues and superiors.
Arriving on time and fast execution their duties.
Polite communication with both colleagues and visitors.
Privacy at work.
Appropriate clothing for the institution you work for.
Lack of personal topics in discussions.
Maintain order in your workplace.
by phone.

Rules in society help to achieve the goals assigned in business. Thanks to good manners, you can move up the corporate ladder and be a successful self-fulfilling person in everything.

To be a pleasant person in any situation, to want to do business with you, you need to perfectly know the laws of behavior in society. They will help not only achieve any goals, but also become a self-confident and happy person.

Each of us would do well to brush up on the rules of etiquette at the table, and perhaps even learn something new about how to behave while eating. Most important rules etiquette that absolutely everyone should use.

Each of us notices when someone in a cafe at a nearby table eats carelessly or stealthily wipes his hands on his knees. In the same way, other people notice our mistakes, any behavior is conspicuous and can cause embarrassment. Therefore, it is better to check yourself and correct your own behavior if necessary.

How to behave at the table

General rules apply to any situation, they will never be superfluous. The first thing we pay attention to when we see a person is his posture. Posture characterizes not only the behavior or condition of a person, but also reveals the secrets of his character.

An insecure person will fidget nervously on the edge of a chair, a notorious person will try to slouch in order to become less noticeable. Sit up straight, but in a way that is comfortable for you. Hands can be placed on the edge of the table or on your knees, and it is better to press your elbows to your sides.

By the way, in order to learn how to hold your elbows near the body in Soviet times, it was advised to periodically train - have lunch, holding a couple of weighty books to your elbows. This is necessary so that the correct bodily pattern is formed, and you keep your elbows flawlessly even when you don’t think about it at all.

The rules of table etiquette imply almost all situations that can happen to a person and give a clear recommendation on how to act in a given situation.

Naturally, table etiquette at home and restaurant etiquette are somewhat different. However, there are rules that are appropriate in any situation:

do not speak too loudly;
do not take a fork or spoon with food too far from the mouth;
you can not make sounds while eating;
eat calmly, without undue haste.

Restaurant

The rules of conduct in a restaurant imply some composure - you need to behave correctly and with dignity in order to make a good impression on others.

How to handle appliances

In no case should you check the cleanliness of the appliances, and if you still notice a cloudy spot on the fork or spoon, you need to quietly draw the attention of the waiter to this oversight and politely ask for a replacement.
In most restaurants, the table is set in advance, and cutlery is laid out on both sides of the serving plate.
Do not get lost if there are more dishes on the table than you expected to see - everything has its own purpose, and if you are in doubt about which fork or spoon you should take, you can always see how other guests solve this problem.
Those devices that lie on the left of the plate are used with the left hand, and those that are laid out on the right must be held in the right hand.
With complex serving, each dish relies on its own devices, so if you are in doubt which fork should be taken, take the far one - the one that is furthest from the edge of the plate. As you change dishes, you will gradually approach the nearest appliances.
The knife is used either for cutting food or for spreading pâtés and butter (for example, during breakfasts). You should not try pieces from a knife.
Cut meat or fish should be sequentially, as it is eaten. Cutting the whole portion at once is a bad form. It is generally accepted that this way the dish cools down faster and loses its main flavors.

Learn in advance a few differences between different cutlery, so as not to get into a mess.

Forks

second hot dishes are eaten with a table fork, it has four cloves, and in length it is slightly inferior to the diameter of the plate and is placed on the left;
a fish fork is used for hot fish dishes, looks smaller than a diner and has four short cloves, a fish fork is easy to recognize by its recesses - they are needed to separate the bones;
snack fork - a reduced duplicate of a table fork, they eat cold snacks with it;
dessert fork - for pies, small, corresponds to the size of a dessert plate and looks atypical;
a fruit fork equipped with two prongs, usually served with a fruit knife;
the remaining forks are considered auxiliary, they are placed next to the dish that they need to eat.

Knives

any second hot dishes are eaten with a table knife, it is placed to the right of the plate, the blade is turned to the plate;
a fish knife is blunt and resembles a spatula, used to separate the flesh of the fish from the bones;
the snack knife is small and has teeth;
dessert and fruit knife look similar - they are the smallest.

spoons

a tablespoon - the largest, lies to the right of the plate;
a dessert spoon is served with a dessert that does not require cutting - soft puddings, jellies and whipped cream;
an ice cream spoon is served with a bowl;
the cocktail spoon has a very narrow and long handle;
a teaspoon can be served with any hot drink;
coffee spoon - the smallest, served only with black coffee.

Dialogue and table manners

Table etiquette includes not only the use of utensils, proper positioning and good posture, but also the manner in which dialogues and conversations are conducted.

It is worth noting that table etiquette categorically prohibits discussing provocative issues that can lead to a serious conflict - therefore, one should refrain from commenting on money, politics and religion.

How to behave at the table and what to say? Be sure to look at the person who is addressing you, listen without interrupting, and only then answer. If you think some questions of the interlocutor are inappropriate for a meal, delicately offer to discuss this a little later. In all other cases, the answer should be easy and unconstrained.

The restaurant does not mean also violent disputes - refrain from inappropriate comments and lighten the mood with a cute joke if someone else raises their voice.

You should not talk only together, involve the rest of the participants in the meal. For example, if the conversation turned to a recent vacation, you can ask one of the interlocutors if he is going to go on vacation in the near future or what places he prefers to relax.

It is also good form in any table conversation to praise the host, chef or initiator of the meeting - find a few kind words to note the general atmosphere of the evening.

A short course in etiquette

Do what the majority does.
Don't point out to others their mistakes, in the most extreme case, this can be said quietly in an undertone and only to your neighbor on the table.
Don't skip meals for too long.
Leaving the table - apologize.
Try everything and eat what you like.
Diet, eating disorders, restrictions on alcoholic beverages and diet are not discussed at the common table.

It is better to study some rules of behavior at the table by looking at the pictures - look at the basic table setting patterns, you can also watch the video on how to properly hold this or that device.

Table etiquette is not that difficult if you give it a little time, and following all the rules will help you present your best side.

Food has a unique place in our lives. We eat several times a day. Food accompanies all solemn events, holidays and diplomatic receptions. To exist, a person must eat. There are a number of etiquette rules that we must follow when eating.

Surely, you, at least once, thought about how to eat chicken, sausage or other other products. Just today we will talk about what and how to eat.

Let's start with bread and sandwiches.

According to the rules of good manners, it is customary to take bread with your hands, and not with a fork. In addition, you should not cut the bread with a knife, it is better to break off small pieces from the piece that you took from the bread box.

If a we are talking about a dinner party, and you decide to eat a piece of ham, then do not put it on top of the bread. Ham is best eaten with a knife and fork, cut into manageable pieces. Bread can be spread with butter, which is taken in a small amount from a butter dish and put on the edge of their plate.

The situation is simpler with bread and ham during breakfast at home. Buttered bread can be safely bitten directly from the whole piece, and you can also put ham and cheese, thus getting a delicious sandwich. In the case of good manners regarding sandwiches, it is more convenient to eat it by cutting it on your plate.

Sausage and nipples

If you were served raw sausage, then each piece is cleaned on its own plate with a knife and fork. Dry sausage or thin-skinned sausages can be eaten unpeeled.

Soups

In order not to appear incompetent,

the soup is not eaten to the end, and the spoon, in no case, is put on the table, but left in the plate.

Those soups and broths that are served in bowls should be drunk like tea or coffee, without using a spoon. Try not to take a full spoonful of soup to avoid spilling. It is indecent to "sip" the soup. Eat quietly. If the first dish is very hot, wait until it cools down, but do not blow on it.

Pate

It is customary to eat pate in pieces, separating with a fork. Only in a family circle or a circle of well-known people, one can afford to spread pate on bread.

chicken and meat

Simultaneously first and second

The dish is chicken in broth. In this case, eat the broth with a spoon and then the chicken with a knife and fork.

As you know, the meat is cut into pieces in portions, so that it is more convenient to eat. This applies to all dishes from game, poultry. As a rule, it is customary to eat a bird using a knife and fork.

Eggs and scrambled eggs

It is customary to eat a soft-boiled egg with a small spoon, placing it in a special glass. Fried eggs, depending on the consistency, are also eaten with a spoon or fork.

Fish

Fish and knife concepts are incompatible. The knife can only be used when cutting pickled herring.

When a spatula and a fork are served to the fish, the spatula is taken with the right hand, thus acting as a knife, and the fork with the left hand. Support a piece of fish with a fork and remove the bones with a spatula.

In the case when two forks are served to the fish, use one of them, namely the one on the right, to separate the bones; Eat the fish with the left fork.

The easiest option is when one fork is served with fish. Then we eat fish with a fork, and in our left hand we hold a piece of bread, which holds a piece of fish.

Served whole fish, the upper part of the fillet is first separated from the bones, and then the spine and bones are separated, which should be set aside. Then we eat the second part of the fillet.

If you have a fish bone stuck in your mouth, try to discreetly place it on the fork with the tip of your tongue.

Cheese

In countries such as France, Belgium, Switzerland, cheese is always served after fish and meat dishes. The number of cheese varieties in a set can be from 5 to 6. It all depends on the taste preferences of the guests. Cheeses should be taken in small portions.

crayfish

In order to enjoy

tender cancer meat, you do not need a knife and fork. In this case, you can and should eat with your hands. The main thing is to have napkins on hand.

Fruits

When fruits are served on the table, it is uncivilized and even insulting to look at and choose the best ones. Take those fruits that are more convenient for you to get.

Tea coffee

According to the rules of table etiquette, coffee and tea should not be served with pre-diluted sugar and added cream. Everything is served separately, and everyone takes everything according to their taste.

Pieces of sugar should be lowered into the mug carefully so that splashes do not fly. Use a teaspoon to stir in the sugar or cream. After that, it is customary to put a spoon on a saucer.

"I'll burst, but I'll eat"

Are you unsure if you can leave half-eaten food on your plate? In this case, try to take small portions from the proposed menu.

Remember that in some countries, in the West, meat and fish dishes are offered to guests twice. Therefore, it will be wise not to overdo it with portions at the beginning of the meal.

In any case, if you really liked the dishes offered, you will not leave a single piece on your plate. Moreover, if you want another serving, put the knife (on the right) and fork (on the left) with the sharp ends inside the plate as well.

If you do not like the dish, put the fork and knife with sharp ends inside the plate on the right side. Thus, you show that you are not going to take the dish a second time.

It all starts with landing. You need to sit completely on a chair so that your palm (four fingers) fits between the body and the edge of the table.

You need to sit straight, somewhat relaxed, press your elbows to the body, do not take them to the sides, even for reasons of convenience. It will be possible to move back a little in a pause between dishes or after the serving of dishes has already been completed, and the guests simply communicate with each other.

You should not put your elbows on the table even if you smoke and it is convenient for you to lean on the table with the elbow of your hand with a cigarette.

You need to take a napkin, and, unfolding it, put it on your knees in order to protect the dress or suit from drops, crumbs. You should not stuff a napkin into your collar, we are still civilized people and have learned not to drip from our mouths.

After eating, you can touch your lips with a napkin and wipe your fingertips.

The first courses can be served either in a deep plate or in a special broth cup.

To cool the soup, you do not need to blow on it. You just need to wait until it cools down. Sometimes they bring the soup already cold, which makes it easier for you.

It is permissible to tilt the plate away from you with your left hand in order to eat the whole soup. It is not clear who was prevented by the bowing of the plate on himself, apparently there were accidents.

The first dishes served in a bouillon cup are usually eaten with a dessert spoon, with the left hand holding the handle of the cup while eating.

Both the broth and the puree soup must first be eaten with a spoon, then you can drink it as if from a simple cup.

When using cutlery while eating, the knife is held in the right hand, the fork in the left hand.

Do not cut several pieces at once - the meat will cool down and become tasteless.

With a knife that cuts meat, they do not take salt from the salt shaker, food from a common dish. Do not crumble bread into a sauce or other dish.

If you have to temporarily interrupt the meal in order to drink water, take bread, put the knife and fork on the plate as they were held: the knife with the handle to the right, and the fork to the left.

After finishing the meal, put the knife and fork on the plate.

If someone asks to pass the device, then knives, forks, spoons are passed with the handle forward, taking the device by the neutral middle. And it is completely forbidden to throw at the one who asked with the blade forward, even if he deserved it.

For oysters, lobsters, and indeed for all soft foods (such as meat, fish, etc.), only knives should be used.

Poultry and game are eaten with a knife and fork.

Some dishes are eaten with hands (asparagus, tobacco chicken, etc.). And there is nothing to be ashamed of here. It looks funnier when you try to smash the poor chickens with a fork.

It is customary to eat hot fish with the help of a special device so as not to cut the bones. They eat fish with one fork, holding it in their right hand and helping themselves with a piece of bread in their left. The bones are stacked on the edge of the plate with a fork.

Salads on small plates are eaten without shifting to a large plate.

And in general, gentlemen, do not build pyramids of plates and glasses, as everyone is used to doing in Soviet canteens.

Salad served in a vase is put on a plate with a spoon or fork attached to the salad.

Sandwiches are sometimes eaten with a knife and fork.

It is considered very indecent to eat fruits by biting directly from them. It is necessary to peel the fruit with a knife, cut the fruit into pieces, cut out the core with grains and only after that eat.

No one should ask to be served first with a dish, showing in any way his impatience. If you feel thirsty at the table, then you should stretch your glass to the one who pours, holding it between the thumb and middle fingers of your right hand. Avoid leaving wine or water in your glass that could spill.

When getting up from the table, you should not fold your napkin at all, and naturally it is very indecent to leave immediately after dinner, you should always wait at least half an hour.

This item is subject to circumstances.

If you came with a companion, and if the table is large, the woman should be seated to your right, if the table is small, then opposite.
AT big company seating should be based on the range of interests and age (provided that this is not a banquet).
If you came in a company, but without a companion, then pay attention to the woman sitting to your right, and no matter what she looks like and how old she is, you can build eyes on the girl opposite. All women can be invited to the dance. If you invite a stranger to dance, do not be intrusive and ask her to dance more than twice.
Smoking is not allowed during dancing. Talking is desirable, but not required. If a woman is in a restaurant with her companion, you must ask him for permission to invite the lady to dance. It's true, it's better to ask than to make excuses in the toilet later.
The initiator of the meeting usually suggests leaving the restaurant first.
The calculation is made when everyone has finished eating.
When paying an invoice, the following rules are usually followed:

If the invitation to the restaurant came from one person, then he usually pays.

A man pays for an invited woman. However, a woman can pay for herself.

If the decision to go to a restaurant was born in the company, then the calculation procedure must be agreed in advance. You can pay "share", or every man for himself.
It is unacceptable to have any discussion on this topic after the invoice has already been paid.
The required amount is placed on the plate on which the invoice is submitted. Don't draw attention to yourself when you pay - it's ugly. The man should help the lady get dressed.
It is advisable to take the woman home. Not necessarily in bed.
You should never offer your left hand to a lady.

How to sit
It is recommended to sit straight at the table: the lower back is pressed against the back of the chair, and the soles of the feet fully touch the floor. It is ugly to sit at the table with crossed legs. The hands, when they are not occupied with the knife and fork, can be lowered to the knees, although the posture seems more natural when the right hand is on the knees and the wrist of the left hand is on the table. It is permissible to put your elbows on the table sometimes between meals, but not when you are eating. Take food from common dishes should be laid out next to her cutlery - most often it is a fork and a spoon. You need to be very careful not to drop what you are taking while holding the spreading spoon or fork in your right hand.
The devices are used in accordance with their location, starting with the extreme ones and ending with those that are next to the plate (see Table setting).
The knife and fork are held so that the fingers do not touch the blade or the teeth. If you stop using the appliance from time to time, then put it only on the edge of the plate, but not on the tablecloth. If you only used a fork, then the knife should rest on the right edge of the plate, where it interferes the least.
If there is a pause in the meal (but the feast is not over yet), the device is placed crosswise on the plate - the knife with the tip to the left, the fork with the convex part up - so that the knife handle is located like a clock hand, pointing to five o'clock, and the fork handle - for seven o'clock. The place of crossing should be on the teeth of the fork and the upper third of the knife. You can put the fork and knife with the handle on the table, and the other end on the plate. At the end of the meal, both devices are placed on a plate parallel to each other, their handles "show at five o'clock." The blade of the knife looks to the left, and the convex part of the fork is up.
It is also customary to put a dessert spoon and fork in parallel. When the dessert is served in a vase with a high leg or in a deep vase on a front plate, the spoon is placed on this plate. If the vase is small and wide, the spoon can be left in it or placed on a plate.
In practice, two manners of eating at the table are accepted: European, described above, and American, which differs from European. In America, it is customary to eat "zigzag": the fork is shifted from the left hand to the right after a piece or several pieces of meat or poultry are cut off. In America, a knife is used only for cutting food, not for putting food on a fork. For this, Americans usually use a slice of bread. After cutting the meat, the knife is no longer used and is placed on the edge of the plate, and the free left hand is placed on the knee.