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Overcome life's problems. The myth of overcoming difficulties

Voltaire [Marie Francois Arouet]

The need to overcome various life difficulties arises in our lives constantly. This is the kind of work that we are regularly forced to do. After all, it is simply impossible to imagine life without difficulties. Difficulties always arise for everyone. It doesn’t matter where or how a person lives, he will constantly face certain difficulties in life, because they are inevitable. And since they are inevitable, we all need to be able to overcome them. And in order to overcome difficulties, you need to be able to perceive them correctly and evaluate them competently, in order to then develop the necessary strategy to overcome them. All this can be learned - any of you, dear readers, can learn this. And in this article I’m just going to teach you how, firstly, to perceive difficulties correctly, secondly, to analyze them competently, and thirdly, to find the right solutions to overcome them and then immediately begin the necessary actions . Read the article to the end - and no life difficulties will be scary for you in the future.

But before we move on to our main task, let's quickly find out what difficulties are. You and I must know what we are dealing with. Difficulties are obstacles in a person’s path that arise in unfamiliar, unusual circumstances for him, when he has to solve non-standard and therefore difficult problems, which we often call problems. It is difficult for him to solve them because he simply does not know how exactly it should be done, and not because they are very difficult in themselves. That is, those obstacles, obstacles, obstacles, obstacles that we perceive as difficulties arise primarily in our head and relate specifically to us. In fact, difficulties can be the same ordinary things that a person does in his life all the time, without even thinking about how difficult they are for him. But if they turn out to be unusual, unusual, non-standard things for him, which he does not know how to do, he will have difficulties. In other words, we're talking about about new life tasks, for the solution of which it is necessary to understand them. And until a person understands them, they will remain difficulties for him. A difficult situation is simply an unusual situation when a person is faced with tasks that he has no experience in solving. That's all, actually. And there is nothing wrong with difficulties. This is very important to understand, friends. After all, the devil is not as scary as he is painted. Difficulties become difficulties only because we treat them as difficulties, giving this concept a negative meaning. Let's now see what the meaning of difficulties is, so that we can learn to perceive them normally and calmly.

What is the meaning of difficulties

So, let's think about why life cannot be such that there are no difficulties and problems in it at all, so that you can live and not care about anything, not worry about anything, not rack your brains over all sorts of difficulties that always complicate and make our lives worse. Therefore, our life cannot be such that the absence of any problems, difficulties, or obstacles in it would make it very boring, uninteresting and meaningless. The absence of difficulties in life would not allow it to develop, you and I would stop developing, and everything would remain at the same level, nothing would change in our lives. And if a person does not develop, then he begins to degrade. After all, life itself, if we look at it closely, is a constant process, a movement from something to something - from birth to death, from an undeveloped state to a developed state, from simple to complex, from one form to another. And it is thanks to this movement, this continuous process of transition from one state to another, that we live, we value and love our life, cherish it, support it, see meaning in it. Therefore, our life cannot be without difficulties, because difficulties are life. They are the ones who force us to change, they are the ones who support our vitality and guide us through life. And anyone who denies the need for difficulties essentially denies life itself. And this indicates the initial stage of degradation. The need for the absence of difficulties is not a normal need. A normal need is the need to solve problems. Only in this case does a person live, and not live his life. Therefore, the meaning of difficulties is to support life, to make it interesting, to give it meaning, and also to develop people, that is, you and me. So life without difficulties is not life, it is something else.

Thus, in order not to go against the fundamental laws of life, you and I need to recognize the usefulness and interestingness of all the difficulties that life regularly throws at us. This will allow us, you, friends, to change our attitude towards them. And thanks to this, you will take the first step towards overcoming them. You and I will learn to smoothly overcome difficulties so that you won’t even notice how they turn from difficulties into part of everyday tasks that you can easily solve. But keep in mind that the ease of solving them will depend on your attitude towards them, and not on the process itself.

How to perceive difficulties

Now let's talk in more detail about how to perceive difficulties in order to learn to overcome them. I have already said above that it is important, very important to understand the usefulness and necessity of various kinds of difficulties in our lives. And also their inevitability. It is important to understand that various difficulties and problems are our life. Or rather, its integral part. Without them, you would not be interested in living, without them you would not see life at all, not to mention the fact that without difficulties you would not be able and would not want to develop. And without development, life cannot be improved. Therefore, life always keeps us on our toes when it throws us certain difficulties. And I believe that these difficulties should be considered as a test that each of us must undergo regularly in order not to lose interest in life and to constantly develop. Therefore, let's perceive them exactly like that - as tests. And even better, as a game in which we need to pass these tests in order to become stronger. Do you like this approach to difficulties? I love. I hope you do too.

Therefore, you should not look at difficulties as something bad, wrong, harmful, unwanted - rejoice in them, accept them, look at working with them as a game that you need to win. Moreover, this is a game that unwinds in a spiral, this is when, overcoming all kinds of difficulties, you become stronger and stronger, moving from one difficulty to another. And as you become stronger, you improve your life, because many things begin to work out for you, many things become within your power. Think about what abilities you can develop in yourself by taking on a solution to a particular problem. And how these abilities will affect your future life. It is clear that this is positive, because the more we can do, the easier it is for us to live. So difficulties are a kind of simulator for personal growth, with which you will make yourself stronger and rise to new heights. This is so cool, you must agree. I tell you this as a person who constantly solves some problems, not only his own, but also those of others. Moreover, when solving other people’s problems, I make them my problems, I get used to them, I take the other person’s place as far as possible and begin to live with their problem in order to then solve it. And guess what? I like it. I have long ceased to be afraid of any problems and life difficulties, because I know that all problems can be solved. But this is not the main thing. The main thing is that by solving these problems, I stop seeing problems as problems, I become stronger and overcome difficulties without noticing them. This is how difficulties affect our lives if we handle them correctly.

This is how you, friends, need to perceive the difficulties in your life in order to treat them correctly. Our understanding and acceptance of them begins with our correct attitude towards them. Why do we need an easy and carefree life, well, think about it yourself, why? Just to burn it through quickly? What is the point in simply existing, what is the joy in that? It is much more interesting to live, overcoming difficulties and constantly developing yourself with their help, so that thanks to this you can expand the horizons of your life and see something new, experience new sensations, and achieve more. This is such an interesting game. We need to say thank you to life for it.

Overcoming difficulties

Having dealt with the correct perception of life's difficulties and our attitude towards them based on this perception, we will move on to ways to overcome them. And to overcome difficulties, no longer in your head, which I wrote about above, but in real life, it is extremely important to identify the reasons for their occurrence and understand the basis of these reasons. That is, it is necessary to conduct a thorough analysis of our difficulties in order to understand why they arose and how best to overcome them, with the help of what specific actions.

Some difficulties arise for objective reasons, when life circumstances are not the best for a person, and nothing can be done about them - you need to either accept reality as it is, or look for opportunities to escape from it into another reality. Well, you know, how it sometimes happens when a person is surrounded by the wrong people, whom he cannot change even if he wants to - he has no choice but to simply leave them, get rid of their environment. Or, say, a person can live in a country in which for a number of reasons he has no prospects, and then it is easier for him to change this country than to change it. Difficulties that arise for objective reasons require us to make the right decisions. They simply guide us through life. But it also happens that people drive themselves into difficult life situations and then, instead of admitting their own mistakes and starting to solve them, they blame other people for their problems, thereby shifting responsibility for their lives to everyone except themselves. And this is a dead end, friends, this is a dead end. And you can’t get out of it unless you start to figure out what happened and for what reason, and what exactly you did wrong that caused certain difficulties in your life. There is no need to blame anyone - not circumstances, not other people - this is pointless. If you yourself find yourself in a dead end in a labyrinth, then it’s up to you to get out of it. Blaming a labyrinth for existing is as pointless as blaming life for being what it is. Because of our dissatisfaction and accusations of everyone and everything, the fundamental laws of nature do not change. By the way, you don’t need to blame yourself for anything either. If you have created problems for yourself, then look at it philosophically - you will do it better than other people. This will allow you to manage your life yourself.

Now let's move on to consider step-by-step actions, with the help of which you can overcome your difficulties.

1. Concentration. To cope with some problem, to solve some problem, to overcome some difficulties, you need to be able to concentrate on them. This is not an easy task - I know it myself. But it’s doable, I know that too. In order to concentrate on something, you need to put things in order in your head - throw out all the useless thoughts that create noise, organize your thinking, put everything in order, and then carefully and consistently begin to study your problem, or better yet, task. Many difficulties disappear already at this stage of working with them, when there is no need to look for any solutions, and there is no need to take any action. It’s enough just to concentrate on your difficulties and understand what exactly they are, what caused them and what they need from you. So concentration is very important, it will help you not to mix your thoughts with each other and not to dump them into one pile. This only makes the problems worse and the tasks more complicated. If you don’t know how to concentrate, don’t know how to manage your attention, learn! Every person can do this. You definitely need to be able to manage your attention, otherwise other people will manage it, they will simply start stealing it from you and using it to their own advantage. You don't need this, right? In the future, I will write articles for you, dear readers, on the topic of concentration to teach you how to concentrate. We will study this topic most thoroughly. So please don't forget to keep the site updated.

2. Analysis. Now let's move on to the analysis. Let's talk about how to carry it out. You need to analyze the situation in which you find yourself, as well as an analysis of the actions that brought you to this situation and then an analysis of the difficulties you encountered. After analyzing the situation, you will immediately understand its pattern, which means you will be able to eliminate the root cause of your problems. The difficulties themselves always tell us how to overcome them, if we study them carefully. I will write a separate article on how to analyze a particular situation, but for now I will point you to the most important aspect this work. You don’t have to take into account all the reasons why certain difficulties have arisen in your life - it’s enough to find the main reason, or several main reasons. And for this it is necessary to think not in breadth, but in depth.

How to do it? By studying cause-and-effect relationships. You can also study cause-and-effect relationships; it is not so important what is primary and what is secondary. But I believe that it is much easier when analyzing a situation to move from effect to cause, rather than from cause to effect. It seems to me that it is more convenient. So, let’s say you find yourself in a situation due to which you have certain difficulties, and this situation is a consequence, a consequence of some of your actions and circumstances. The question is - which ones exactly? To understand this, you need to remember everything that you did before you started having difficulties. You don’t need to take into account only what, from your point of view, could lead you to the situation in which you find yourself. You may be wrong. Therefore, take into account all the decisions you make and actions you take. Then determine their sequence in order to understand which of your actions was performed earlier and which later, that is, which follows which. This will help you find one or more root causes. Then you need to turn your attention to objective factors that may or may not have been decisive in the process of forming your situation. You also need to sort them out in time to understand where it all started. Let's say you have financial difficulties in your life, and you need to understand why exactly this happened. Perhaps it's all about the crisis, which has crippled many people, not just you. This is, so to speak, an objective factor. Or perhaps the whole point is a decrease in your income, which has decreased for certain reasons that depend on you. You need to find out exactly why this happened. In other words, all difficulties have basic reasons, which in turn can be in the form of objective and subjective factors. As a rule, both factors influence to a certain extent the formation of various life situations. Only some of them play a more important role, and some less important. And the easier it will be for you to understand the reason for the occurrence of certain difficulties, the more fundamental the factors you find that led to them turn out to be.

Simply put, you need to find the root of your difficulties in order to eliminate it as the root cause. Thus, the analysis will allow you to split your situation into the time periods from which it arose, and when you find the main reason that led you to this situation, you can eliminate it. Well, or the specialist you turn to for help, after studying your situation, will do it for you.

3. Responsibility. The next thing you should pay attention to in order to overcome difficulties and solve various kinds of problems is that you do not need to blame them on anyone. I'm mainly talking about people's complaints about their lives, the fact that they cry when telling other people about their difficulties and often want to be sympathized with, to be pitied. They didn’t help, they suggested what and how to do to solve their problems, but they simply sympathized. Friends are a very bad habit. It may be useful for psychological relief for someone to cry, complain, talking about their problems, but this teaches a person to put up with them, to put up with his difficulties, instead of overcoming them. And if a person does not overcome his difficulties, but resigns himself to them, then he deprives them of meaning. Difficulties arise in a person’s life not so that he complains about them, but so that he overcomes them. Life wants a person to become stronger, to develop, to take a worthy place in society, so it trains him with the help of its tests. And if a person refuses them, these tests, he goes against the laws of the universe, against the laws of the Universe, against the laws of God. This is what is important to understand. Therefore, there is no need to complain, no need to cry - look for a solution to the problems facing you, do it yourself or with the help of specialists, whose knowledge and experience will help you solve all your problems. This is what is required of you – the ability to solve problems, including non-standard ones. So do this, with the help of your own and outside resources. But there is no need to whine and complain about your life - it will not give you anything. But if you need it, then please - whine, complain, feel sorry for yourself. But then, when it becomes easier for you, start solving your problems, overcome the difficulties that have arisen in your life. The problem is not tears and snot, the problem is inaction. The main thing is that you are not passive, that you do not resign yourself to your problems and difficulties, and that you do not shift responsibility for them to other people in order to do nothing. You understand that this will not lead you to anything good, your problems will only get worse.

4. Emotions. Controlling emotions is also enough important point in overcoming difficulties. Emotions, you know, push us to the most primitive actions, to the most obvious decisions, to absolutely ill-considered actions. Because of this, we make mistakes, thereby not solving, but aggravating our problems. Emotions are inevitable and, moreover, necessary, but you need to be able to control them. Eat good ways, allowing you to do this, and I have written about them several times on this site. The main thing is to turn on your thinking when emotions begin to overcome you, and for this you need to load yourself with questions, and of course, start looking for answers to them, and then the thinking process will start. By pacifying your emotions, you will significantly simplify the solution of the problems and tasks facing you. It’s mainly because of them, because of emotions, that we make mountains out of molehills, sometimes seeing difficulties and problems in things that don’t actually have them. So who knows, perhaps by calming yourself down, you will immediately get rid of all your problems. But, in some cases, in order for there to be an impetus for action, it is necessary to experience strong emotions. It doesn’t matter whether the emotions are positive or negative, different people have different motivations, it is important that, having experienced these emotions, a person gets off the ground and takes action. So, if, say, you are experiencing difficulties in life, which are mainly associated with your passivity and laziness, then a portion of strong negative emotions will clearly not hurt you if it makes you move. Emotions give a person the energy to perform actions, so I do not encourage you to give up on them, you just need to learn to control and manage them. If you learn this, and I’m sure you will, I will teach you this, then the number of mistakes you make in your life will decrease significantly. And you can motivate yourself with the help of your emotions to overcome the same difficulties if, or rather, when, you take control of them.

5. Confidence. Without a doubt, self-confidence helps to solve all the problems that may arise in our lives, and, accordingly, it also helps to overcome life’s difficulties. But now I would like to point out to you another certainty, one that is associated with the difficulties that life throws at us as, as we agreed, tests. Friends, I am absolutely convinced that life always throws us only such difficulties that we are able to overcome. She doesn’t have a goal to break us, she doesn’t need it. But no one has canceled the law of natural selection - if you want to survive, you must be strong. And to be strong, you must subject yourself to stress - physical, mental and intellectual. And the difficulties that arise in our lives do just that - they moderately burden us. Therefore, even if you are an insecure person, then at least be sure that you are quite capable of overcoming the difficulties that you face in your life. I guarantee you this. This is true. Confidence that you can overcome all the tests that life throws at you - that’s what you need to overcome difficulties. At the same time, I repeat, you can even be an insecure person, it doesn’t matter, you can still overcome all the difficulties that exist in your life. They, these difficulties, are prescribed to you by life according to an individual prescription. So they are tough for you, don’t doubt it. But if you also develop self-confidence, that will be absolutely wonderful.

These, in fact, are all the basic steps that you need to take to overcome various life difficulties. I didn’t go into too much detail on this topic, otherwise the article would be too long and not everyone would dare read it. It would be better in the future to return to this topic again and consider it from other points of view, for a better understanding. In the meantime, you will agree that there is nothing complicated in the actions I have described. First of all, you need to change your attitude towards difficulties so that they do not frighten or suppress you, then analyze them in the way I suggested, then develop a simple action plan and proceed to its implementation. Everything else is accompanying this process procedures.

So, as you see, friends, every person is capable of overcoming difficulties, whatever they may be. You just need to accustom yourself to this, and then you won’t even notice many difficulties and problems, because they will not cause you any discomfort, and you will automatically begin to solve them all. This is called unconscious competence, when everything works out as it should, without any stress.

If you are interested in how to overcome difficulties in life, then you are already on the right path. Any, even the most complex problems can be solved if you set yourself the goal of solving them.

The easiest way to get out of life's impasse is to stop struggling with difficulties and start focusing on your goals. Describe your dream life in detail, write on paper or in a computer file how you want to see yourself and your reality in a year, five, ten years. All truly successful people in the world resort to this technique, because the art of success is the art of setting goals and planning.

When you have written down all your goals on paper, start moving towards them. Write a plan of basic actions that you can perform daily and that will bring you at least one step closer to the life of your dreams. Live for several months in an intense and exciting movement towards the fulfillment of your dreams, and you will see that the question “how to overcome difficulties in life” has begun to let you go. After all, when a person’s whole life is built towards his goals, everything unnecessary begins to fall off and dissipate.

Difficulties usually arise when there is chaos in a person’s head, when there is no consistency in thoughts, a hierarchy of values has not been built, goals have not been set, and life priorities have not been defined. Look at the picture of your reality, and with careful analysis you will be able to see that your life is a mirror of your mind and the state of your restless soul.

You can read dozens and hundreds of articles about what exactly to do in a given situation. But the truth is that everything good in this life always begins with working on yourself, personal growth and internal improvement.

Any difficulties should be accepted with gratitude. If we messed things up or even a problem came to us without our direct actions, this means only one thing: that the situation was given to us for internal growth and development. All situations lead us to the fulfillment of our desires. That is, we ourselves subconsciously build the vector of our behavior in such a way as to make it faster and easier to get to our destination. If you take a moment to look back at the past, you will find that many situations that once seemed like a tragedy actually led you to very positive consequences. Maybe your loved one left you, but then it turned out that he was a drug addict, a womanizer and an alcoholic, and you subsequently married a very worthy man. Or, perhaps, you were not hired, and then it turned out that this job did not meet your expectations, the company closed and went bankrupt, you found more promising job, learned Chinese, changed their wardrobe and signed up for a fitness center, took up the psychology of communication and improvement in their profession to increase their chances of getting a decent job.

Some people tend to worry about everything and literally make mountains out of molehills. Remember that any problem is not a problem, but a task. And if there is a problem, then there is an acceptable solution. Start searching for everyone possible solutions. The easiest way would be to write them on a separate piece of paper.

Other efficient technique to overcome difficulties is to take a situation that does not allow you to live in peace and write down all the most negative scenarios for its development that you can imagine. Come to terms with all these options, and you will immediately feel better.

Always remember that worrying will not only not fix anything, but will also drive yourself into an even bigger swamp. Whatever happens, rejoice in spite of the circumstances, and you will see how quickly life will begin to change in a positive direction.

To effectively overcome difficulties, remember all life situations when you brilliantly came out of a difficult situation. This way you can increase your self-confidence and strengthen the belief that you can do anything.

You created any situation for yourself. When a person constantly grows and develops as a person, problems do not go away instantly, but gradually life becomes easier and easier, and problems reach a new level. As they say, life is easy, and if it’s hard for you to live, it means you’re doing something wrong.

The easiest way to improve your vitality and make your life better is to take a closer look at your health and energy. A healthy and energetic body gives a completely different level of life and allows you to cope with current tasks without irritation and stress. Eat only healthy food and do some exercise. Physical activity helps relieve excess energy and clear your mind. To do this, physical education must be quite intense, like dancing or basketball, or deeply work the body, like yoga. The functioning of the body at a new level has a direct impact on the functioning of the brain.

If in this moment If you can't go to the gym, do some deep cleaning at home.

An excellent stress reliever is a variety of breathing techniques and exercises. The simplest option is deep and intense breathing through the mouth over a fairly long period of time. This technique perfectly clears the mind and, with regular use, takes your mind and body to a new level.

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Difficulties are something we constantly face throughout our lives. Therefore, everyone wants to know how to overcome difficulties and learn patience in order to ultimately achieve success. After all, our paths to it are rarely smooth.

Usually problems grow gradually and eventually become noticeable. Therefore, a deep and complete awareness of the difficulty is required. This will allow you to find the right solution and way out of the current situation. But they also cannot be overestimated. This will only cause bad emotions and fear.

When difficulties arise, do not wait for someone to help you. Learn to take responsibility. Never blame anyone for your difficulties. Don’t feel sorry for yourself and don’t be imbued with anger towards everyone around you. If you still need help, then don’t hesitate to ask for it.

If you want to overcome difficulties, never allow the criticism within you to take over. It needs to be neutralized to maintain the positive potential of your ideas. Remember that the great ideas of brilliant thinkers are still impossible to implement.

The conclusion suggests itself: first of all, you need to look for those ideas that seem sensational. Of course, there is a certain amount of risk involved, so take the right approach to the misfortune that may arise in advance. The very fact of failure may mean that you did not succeed, but you learned a lot.

If, after all, your activity ends in success, remember that such a state is not eternal. It's like love - it can last as long as we ourselves extend it and work to prolong it.

In the end, I would like to say that the solution to the question “how to learn to overcome difficulties” mainly depends on each individual. The more a person who encounters a difficulty develops a playful attitude towards it, the faster his fear of failure will disappear.

The main thing is to fit every difficulty into perspective. There are 5 basic principles for this.

All living beings can have difficulties. If you think that having wealth, you will not have difficulties, then you are mistaken.

all problems are somehow solvable over time. There is no one constant problem. You just need to endure a streak of failures.

in every failure there is positive sides. What is bad for one is good for another.

all problems help us improve and become stronger.

we do not choose problems, but we can find ways out of them. Hopeless situations can not be.

If you still cannot resolve any difficulty, rules are proposed that will help you understand how to learn to overcome difficulties.

Ability to overcome difficulties

Sometimes even the most talented and efficient employees have problems in the workplace. Are you one of these people? Have you encountered any problems and can’t figure out how to deal with difficulties at work? It's OK. Calm down, breathe slowly and try to study what I will try to convey to you below.

If you are faced with uncertain circumstances and are scratching your head, then follow these steps:

Relax, assess the situation soberly. You see, very often problems happen precisely because of our fatigue. Relax, make yourself some tea. If you constantly think about this problem, then you can only harm yourself in the current situation. Since this issue is more of a psychological attack, you need to fight it psychologically, first of all, through rest.

If the problem is truly global in nature and could lead to a fine or dismissal, then let go of the situation more boldly. To overcome the difficulties that have arisen at work, you do not need to torment yourself with this burden, because there is no sense in it at all. It’s better to relax and think about the good, try to look for some advantages in this.

One of effective ways to overcome difficulties at work is to go to the boss “on the carpet” and openly admit your mistake, let him understand that you did not want to allow it at all, that you value your work and do not want to part with this place. If your boss is a morally adequate person and understands intelligent people, then it is possible that you will retain your favorite post, and then it’s up to you.

If you are a competent employee and understand the opportunity to somehow correct or reduce the role of the current situation, then act - everything is in your hands. Calmly and clearly do what will help correct the problem and reduce risks.

Finally, if the problem is insoluble, but the place is still under you, then it’s time to show yourself with the best side. Focus on new tasks, raise your head higher and go towards your goal. Achieve success in your career and all problems will immediately be forgotten and fade into the background.

Remember that all problems are just obstacles that make us stronger. There is no need to lower your head under any circumstances. You should always go to the victorious end in everything, then you will get away with any mistakes.

How to learn patience

Probably everyone has heard the phrase “stay patient” more than once. Patience is one of the best qualities person. Tolerate means to restrain your emotions in unpleasant situations. A person who has this feeling will be able to achieve a lot in life. But how to learn patience?

Much else depends on patience positive qualities a person, for example, confidence, perseverance, the ability not to get upset and to complete the work started. It will be difficult for an overly emotional person to adapt to modern society.

In order to achieve great results and overcome difficulties, you need to be a patient person. But what does patience itself depend on? It depends on many factors. The very first is education in childhood. The character of the child depends on the parents. If your parents did not attach much importance to this, you can learn patience on your own.

First, you need to set a goal for yourself and not give up in the face of difficulties that will arise on the way to achieving it. Another important part of patience is the ability to plan everything ahead. the slightest action. If a person has learned to move confidently and not to retreat, no matter what, then he can already be congratulated - he is on the right way.

To learn patience, it is very important to remember that only through action can you improve your patience. Action is a habit. To cultivate patience, you need to choose a habit that will help you take a step forward to achieve your goal. It's not exactly easy, but it's quite effective.

The next step that will help you overcome difficulties is to be able to accept defeats and remember that there are no easy victories. If you want to learn patience, you need to be confident that everything will work out, don’t give up, and take it step by step. It is also important to appreciate every little thing and victory, and not give up during failures.

Life is an unpredictable thing, so things don’t always work out the way we would like. It is impossible to act exactly according to plan, but also to deviate from the goal. The main thing here is to always remember the goal and never leave the race.

But, perhaps, the most important thing is to never stop there, to work on yourself. If you want to learn patience, you need to improve not only new habits, but also those that have broken you in the past.

If you follow this plan, you can learn patience quite quickly. And a person with patience can restrain negative emotions, behave with restraint in various unpleasant situations, and, perhaps, the most important thing is to be confident in himself and complete the work he has started.

Difficulties in life are more than just isolated difficulties or failures. Adversity or difficulty can be seen as a series of difficulties or misfortunes that keep you from achieving your goals and you do not feel happy. So how can this situation be overcome? It's actually easier said than done, but you can overcome all adversity if you develop the right attitude and take steps to get what you want and deserve. If you want to start overcoming challenges now, see step 1.

Steps

Part 1

Shaping Your Point of View

Don't let your past dictate your future. There are a number of ways this can be done. Maybe you grew up in a harsh environment where you were never encouraged. This should not make you think that you will never succeed in your current environment. Maybe you're trying to become an actress but haven't made it past the last thirty auditions; don't let this make you think you'll never get a call again. Focus on what's in front of you and on achieving what you want to achieve, despite your past.

Think about how much sweeter success will be when you can say that you got what you worked for, despite a past that dictated otherwise.
A difficult past can make a successful future even more productive. You can't measure your success in acting, business, painting, etc. if you get everything on the first try.

Marina Nikitina

It is difficult to find a person who does not know what the difficulties of life are. But there are millions of people in the world who do not know how to overcome these difficulties. They lie to themselves, denying the existence of difficulties, give up, stopping any attempts to solve problems or understand them. What does this lead to? Nothing positive. A person falls into prolonged depression or develops nervous and mental illnesses.

If you are a strong-willed person, accustomed to facing the truth, then this information will not be useful to you. If you don’t have the courage to solve problems, work on yourself from today, because you have already taken a small step in this direction - you have decided to learn how to overcome difficulties.

Diagnosis of problems

To fight the enemy you need to know him by sight. Therefore, first we will determine the presence of difficulties and see which category they belong to. Life difficulties:

Serious problems from outside (loss of the most expensive property, a house burned down, a large sum of money stolen, death loved one, incurable disease).
Difficulties of moderate complexity (you were kicked out of work, your wife is sick, you have no means of subsistence).
Difficulties in self-identification psychological problems(, feelings of inferiority or worthlessness, depression, panic).
Domestic difficulties (tired of cleaning, cooking, quarreling with my husband because of his carelessness, plumbing is out of order, not enough money, the phone is broken, difficulties in family life).

The problems described in the first two points are not necessarily the most difficult. The third type of problems - psychological - can be of any complexity. The subtle world called “psyche” is difficult to analyze, so to deal with this kind of problem, you have to try. Everyday difficulties from the last category are only at first glance inferior in complexity to the previous ones; they drag you into a pool of sadness, fear, sluggish, destructive hatred of yourself and the rest of the world. Therefore, any of the problems is serious, especially for the one who has it.

Making a strong-willed decision to fight

Giving a clear name is mandatory, because vague complaints like “I feel bad, my soul hurts, it’s hard, and I don’t know why” and “cure” are impossible.

After recognizing the problem, you already have a formulation. It’s not always easy to take even this step, but don’t think about it, do it in order, so to speak, in small steps. In this way you will go through the entire long, albeit difficult, path. Don't forget: “Great things start small.”

After looking your difficulty in the eye, the problem will already decrease in size. Now it will not pulsate in your exhausted brain every day or seem like a black bottomless abyss. No, after the bold step of identifying the problem, you have already seen your enemy and know its size. It turns out that this is not a bottomless abyss, although it is very deep in some particularly serious cases.

How often does it happen that a person knows a problem that has been bothering him for a long time, but does not want to fight, he is disappointed in life, does not believe in himself and walks around like a psychological corpse - Homo Sapiens lives, eats, breathes, but has lost interest in anything , life only by the fact of its existence is disgusting. What can I recommend?

Strange as it may sound, if it seems to you that the end has come for the person you previously saw in the mirror, this is good because there is nothing to lose in such a situation. All that remains is to make the decision to fight, to solve problems.

You may ask, what to do if it is completely unclear which direction to move? Should you do something even if you are not sure about the right path? Of course yes. Here's an example. Imagine that there is a small wooden box in front of you. It is filled with balls of the same size, but of different colors: first, a handful of black balls are poured, and the same amount of white balls is poured on top. The box is closed.

Now we draw parallels: one of the black balls is you. The ball lies at the bottom of the box, there are black balls around, there is also a large layer of balls on top and the situation seems completely hopeless, since there is no way to get up and the ways to solve the problem are unknown.

Now imagine that you pick up the box and start shaking it. Yes, at first glance you are doing things at random. You don’t know what’s going on inside, you know one thing - when you shake the box, at least something happens inside. Now let’s reveal the cards: in the process of such shaking, the balls in the box begin to mix. It happens chaotically, but everyone has heard the theory of probability.

So, according to this theory, the balls in the box will eventually return to their initial position with almost zero probability. So to do at least something is in a decadent mood. And then, you see, while shaking, you will understand in which direction you need to tilt the box and your ball will be pushed up by other balls.

Difficulties in a person's life

Imagine life without difficulties. It seemed like it could be better. You will be surprised, but it is the presence of difficulties that shows us how good life can be, gives us food for thought, and makes us, like the balls from the example above, move. If difficulties in a person’s life disappear, then there will be nothing to compare the rest of the events with; no one will even imagine what difficulties are, or what joyful events are. There won’t be any, since everything will be painfully the same.

To maintain vitality, to maintain self-control, you must always remember what was written on the ring of King Solomon. It said, “This too shall pass.” When he had, he looked at this inscription and calmed down, because there was an instruction that everything would pass. But he was in no hurry to rejoice too much, so as not to be upset later, because even in this case he looked at the inscription and was convinced that this too would pass, that everything in the world passes and passes.

Ways to overcome life's difficulties

Overcoming the difficulties of life is organized in many different ways. First way: follow the example of King Solomon. You can actually have your ring engraved in a jewelry store and always wear it on your finger. Another way to look at this wise expression is to make a beautiful sign that will hang in a prominent place in your home.

Let in your head not a picture of a sad development of events for you, but this useful phrase. In the meantime, you will begin to take any actions, at least to distract attention, then you will understand what to do to directly solve the problem.

Don’t be afraid to think about your enemy - about the problem that poisons your existence. It is better to take courage and analyze whether the grief is as great as its tortured brain imagines. Analyze this. Ask yourself: “Yes, I have a problem. And what follows from this? What are the consequences of an unresolved problem?” You need to present honestly: choose not only negative consequences, but also a positive outcome of events. After all, you must clearly understand that there are always several possible outcomes, and excluding positive ones, you leave yourself no chance to change anything.

Remember that you need to be sure to break the repetitive cycle of negative thinking. This is difficult because thinking patterns (the paths along which thoughts travel through the neurons of the brain) are already like well-trodden paths: the more they are followed, the larger they become. It’s already difficult to think differently, but you do it. All events in life move after your thoughts. That is, first you give an assessment of the event in your head, painting it in some color, and only then through the prism of your assessment you look at everything else. Throw away black colors from your palette of thoughts at least for a while. Any event for the universe has no emotional coloring, neither good nor bad. So for one person an event will be bad, but for another it will be good. Only people evaluate events, only you decide whether you will learn a lesson from what is happening or whether it will crush you with your permission.

If your problem came from outside, for example, a loved one died or you were left homeless, then the positive thinking techniques described above will come to your aid. If the problem concerns your psyche and worldview, the “breaking the pattern” technique will help. The mechanism of the passage of thoughts (nerve impulses) through the neurons of the brain has already been described above. It is much easier for a lazy brain to let its thoughts follow already known paths - patterns of behavior. You will have to make a strong-willed effort to “pave” a new path.

In reality this method looks like this. Experiment with any thought (you don’t have to immediately think about the problem that’s bothering you). For this exercise, any statement that you don’t doubt at all and that is already firmly stuck in your brain is suitable. Usually it is from such thoughts and behavioral reactions that a pattern is formed.

Next, try to doubt this statement. This will be difficult to do, because it has already been established many years ago and it seems that there can be no other opinion. When you try to convince yourself that things that have been familiar for a long time may not be at all what they seem, you will feel a kind of resistance. It’s like cutting a path for yourself in the impenetrable jungle with a machete, sweating despite the fact that nearby there is a path already cut through the thickets.

If you work on yourself so regularly, you will definitely pave new paths. It cannot be otherwise, this is exactly how you once formed ideas about the world that you are now guided by, without subjecting them to analysis. But it is precisely for a conscious life, and not a semi-automatic one, that we are given the opportunity to become aware of ourselves, along with which we need to be responsible for our thoughts and actions.

There is another plus: when you look for new variations (logical connections), new connections are formed among billions of neurons in the brain, even if such thoughts seem fantastic at first - it doesn’t matter, the main thing is to cover the brain with a network of connections. Then one day a brilliant idea or an amazing solution to a problem will come to you, which you could not even think of before, because the overwhelming number of neurons are now connected to any of them, even a distant neuron (although the word “remote” does not fit the description of instantaneous neural connections ).

“If you cannot change your circumstances, change your attitude towards them” - stick to this rule.

23 March 2014, 15:41