What inspires ok. What is inspiration and how to inspire yourself? Top best sources of inspiration
With any of us there was such a situation when we felt a complete lack of strength. Apathy, indifference, lack of work or communication with loved ones, even depression are just some of the manifestations of what we call a breakdown. And the reason for this is the lack of inspiration. And it happens to every person: one cannot paint a new picture, the other does not know how to set up a business, and the third is simply looking for a reason to refuse to meet friends again. How to change this situation and again see before your eyes not faded and boring, but bright and interesting world? Find new sources of inspiration for yourself. Each person has their own. But if you haven't found your own yet, try using the ones most commonly referred to by psychologists.
What is inspiration?
This is a very pleasant state when it is easy to breathe, thoughts are clear, you want to move mountains and have the strength to do so. Psychologists call this state a powerful rise in all vitality, when a person's productivity increases several times at once. For what? Due to new feelings, emotions, experiences. The key word here is new. It could be a book, a painting, a movie, a new acquaintance, or even a new commute.
Each person has something different. Some kind of impulse that is superimposed on previous experience and gives rise to new feelings and sensations. It is he who encourages us to do something - open our own business, write a poem, go on a trip. Or maybe sign up for dancing or start diving. So what could be driving all of this? Let's try to figure it out, but with one condition: we immediately note such a "source" as alcohol. Although for many it is an inspiration, it is better to try to find a source “more soberly”.
Top best sources of inspiration
- Favorite hobby
When a person likes work, he is provided with both earnings and pleasure: this is what other thinkers used to say in Ancient Greece. Turn a hobby into main source income is not obtained immediately and not for everyone, but this must be strived for. Rushing to your favorite work in the morning, you will not need to look for additional sources of inspiration. New goals and the desire to fulfill them will appear by themselves, you will want to develop and reach new heights. At the same time, it is possible that at some point you will still get tired, and you will get tired of everything. The recipe for “treatment” of such a condition is simple: for a couple of days you need to take a break even from a very favorite thing and just have a good rest.
- People we communicate with
A lot depends on them. Sometimes it is difficult to solve some task or problem without a “fresh look”. You can fight over it for more than one day, and then an outsider will just take a look and immediately tell you what its essence is. Therefore, the advice of the people around us should never be abandoned. It is very useful to listen to an extra opinion. And do not be shy to seek advice and help from relatives, friends or colleagues.
- Constant self-development
A person must constantly develop in order to move forward.
This is an axiom, which is confirmed by examples successful people. You always have to set new goals for yourself so that you have something to strive for. This will maintain a constant interest even in a very beloved business. Self-development may include reading books, learning a new language, a computer program, professional courses and trainings. Sometimes a new education may even be needed. In order not to lose sources of inspiration, always develop.
Clear your mind - this will allow you to look at the world wider, feel deeper and find inspiration in the most unexpected places. To cleanse the mind.
- Books, music, movies
The nature of the sources of inspiration lies in them. If you feel a breakdown, it is better not to take on work, but try to distract yourself - watch your favorite movie, re-read the book that is best for you, or listen to your favorite music. And this will definitely charge you with good emotions and cause a surge of strength. Music is the most affordable way distract from bad thoughts and tune in to work, because you can listen to it anywhere (thanks to gadgets). Psychologists even advise not to try to finish the work that has been started when it does not argue. It is better to be distracted for an hour, and then complete the work you have begun much faster.
- Complete silence
Our world is so arranged that there is always a lot of noise around. Even at night, city dwellers often sleep to the sound of cars passing by houses or sounds from neighboring apartments. Try to stay at least 10-15 minutes a day in absolute silence - you can close the windows tightly and put on headphones. Being alone with yourself is sometimes easier to collect your thoughts and listen to the inner voice. And then life will seem much more interesting and you will want to do something new.
- meditation
Not everyone loves this source of inspiration, not even everyone agrees to try it. But sometimes it’s worth closing your eyes and immersing yourself in your inner world. Perhaps he will give you new ideas or solutions. If this practice is not very clear, do not be afraid to ask for help from practicing psychologists.
- Love
A loving and beloved person is almost always full of inspiration. This emotional feeling gives him strength, encourages him to take action, and allows him to achieve new goals. After all, many heroes perform feats for the sake of love. For a person who knows the power of love, the concept of powerful energy is also familiar. And if you have not yet met your love, be sure to look for it.
- Constant experiments
The nature of sources of inspiration lies in novelty, and any experiment is always something new.
Do not be afraid to change something and start.
Sometimes even a change of clothes or hairstyle can transform a person's life. Don't be afraid to change the environment in the house or get involved in new hobbies. Why not sign up for dance or cooking classes? You can even choose a different route for driving to work - along other streets, and then the world will not seem gray, but will open its new colors and shades for you. Overcoming fears and becoming more free internally allows the purification of the mind.
- Nature
The source of inspiration suits especially city dwellers. Sometimes it can be very useful to go to nature for a day, take a walk in the park or go to the forest. Nature is so rich that it can inspire absolutely any person. After all, she has a “key” for everyone: she will charge someone with the energy of the mountains, someone with a green forest. Others will like the steppe or the winter frozen lake. Try to be in nature at least once a month, and then the breakdown will not be a permanent occurrence for you.
- Trips
New countries always open up the world for us anew. But if you still can’t go on a long trip, get at least on a tour of native land. Probably 20-30 km from your hometown there are places you haven't been to yet. New emotions from such a trip are guaranteed, which means that inspiration will appear.
- Sport
This is no less powerful source of inspiration than love. It helps to part with sad thoughts, improve health, and recharge with positive energy for a long time. You can buy a subscription to a fitness center, sign up for swimming, or just start doing exercises at home or running in the morning. Today, sports are so accessible that you should not refuse the opportunity to give them at least half an hour a day.
What can get in the way of inspiration?
The reasons for his absence are directly proportional to the sources cited above. Poor health, fear of experimentation, poor reading, unwillingness to develop, surrounding yourself with unsuccessful people and unloved work. Any of these points can deprive a person of vital energy and desire for something new. What if there are several of them at once?
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And do not forget that nature also helps our “recharging”. The source of inspiration does not always come by itself. Set goals for yourself: when you have them, it is easier to move forward. After all, the muse comes only to those who want it and can use it competently.
We often say the most frank things as a joke so that no one understands that this is true.
In India, when they meet, they greet each other: “Namaste”. What does it mean - "I honor that place in you where the whole world is - a place of love, light, truth, peace, in which you and I are One." Isn't it an amazing way of greeting? Namaste friends!))
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“Man does not begin his life with empty space He already existed before he was born. His past existence, the family in which he was born and his people determine his personality. But besides everything, he is given his own will, and he himself is responsible for his deeds. He can, by his will, completely change his character and neutralize his entire past. God gives us all strength and energy, but does not release us from responsibility. There is an infinite depth within us, and we ourselves are able to see our own sins and our own ignorance in the light that we find within ourselves. Consciousness of one's "I" is the most low level consciousness, which is also inherent in animals. Expanding our consciousness, we perceive others as part of ourselves. We rise from our "I" to the level of our family, then to the level of society, then - to the level of Nature, and further - to the level of God.
The higher a person is in mental and moral development, the freer he is, the more pleasure life gives him.
Chekhov A.P.
It is easy to see the sins of others, but it is difficult to see your own. For other people's sins scatter like a husk; their own, on the contrary, hide, like a skillful card sharper, an unfortunate bone.
~Buddha~
ACQUIRE BY LETTING TO BE
Allowing to be means here: we allow things to move their own way for a while, as they move on their own. We don't interfere until it's clear which way they're going.
If they move away from us when we are not trying to direct them anywhere, we let them go. This means that we let them go their own way. By letting them go their own way, we free ourselves for something else.
The more we let go of the things that burden us rather than help us, the more we become free for what truly matters. From the outside, this may seem like a loss, but by and large it turns out to be a gain for us and for others.
How can we know that something wants to leave us?
1. It worries us. We don't know how to deal with it. More and more obstacles are piled up, showing us from different sides that, ultimately, for mutual favorable relations there is no chance between this project and us.
2. We are no longer happy with this project. Thinking about him, we feel a heaviness in the chest or on the shoulders; it makes us depressed, not uplifted.
3. When we imagine getting rid of this project, we let out a sigh of relief and feel our self-confidence and optimism return, along with our strength.
Our relationship with the project is the same as with a person, as if he had a soul, goals and deadlines, as if the project were a living being, born, maturing, aging and dying. Ultimately, in due time, he makes room and time for something else, something new.
Bert Hellinger excerpt from "Success in Life, Success in Work"
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THOUGHT RULES THE WORLD
Thought is energy, the power of which has no limits. Our universe was created by the thought of an entity that many call God. The same thought created man, who was given the power of the Creator - a thought.
Love is also energy and, like other positive emotions, it strengthens thought like a catalyst.
Dreams always come true if a person believes in the power of his own thought. Thought + Faith = Intention.
Intention is born by a thought that gives a command to the subconscious, which, in turn, begins to create the necessary conditions for the realization of thought in the physical world.
The time of the materialization of a thought depends on the speed of the thought that creates the intention. The speed of the intentional person's thought depends on the amount of his personal power (Spirit) — the energy of the person's Soul. This energy is collected during a person's life through his chakras, food and air. If a person lives in harmony with the Universe (the position of the owner is the unity of opposites), he accelerates the process of gaining energy. If a person lives inharmoniously (the position of the victim-tyrant - the acceptance of one of the parties) - he loses energy.
P.S. There is no knowledge in books - there are only keys. The very knowledge in Man! No matter how much you read the bible or scientific literature, you will never know God or the universe. But as soon as you look into yourself, you will find God and his power!
CHAKRAS. SIDHI AND SUPERNATURAL POWERS
Each of us has supernatural abilities (siddhis), in the yoga sutra "Shiva Samite" it is said that the awakening (opening) of the chakras leads to the release of mystical power. This mystical power is in every person, in most cases it is asleep.
MULADHARA CHAKRA (Coccyx)
Supernatural powers (siddhis):
- Dardri-Siddi (the ability to jump like a frog without the use of physical force);
- Thorough knowledge of past, present and future events, as well as their causes;
- The ability to fulfill all desires;
- The ability to see the deities of the high worlds.
SWADHISTANA CHAKRA (The base of the sexual organs)
- Attract people of the opposite sex;
- To be forever young and live long;
- Clairvoyance and clairaudience of a low level.
MANIPURA CHAKRA (Solar Plexus)
Supernatural abilities:
- Achieve everything in this world that you want;
- Find treasures hidden in the earth with the help of clairvoyance;
- Create precious metals, such as gold;
- See the figures of people of the past who have achieved Liberation;
ANAHATA CHAKRA (Heart center)
The following supernatural abilities:
- Read with the help of clairvoyance the thoughts of other people (reading other people's thoughts);
- Control the minds of others.
- Levitate;
- Travel by air:
- See distant objects and hear sounds at a great distance.
VISHUDHA CHAKRA (Throat)
Supernatural abilities:
- Stay forever young and gain immortality;
- Rule the world at will;
- Healing
- Feel ecstasy in the whole body.
- Mummify your physical body after death and keep it for thousands of years in this world without signs of decay;
- Talk to animals and plants.
AJNA - CHAKRA (Brows, Third eye)
Supernatural abilities:
- See the Guardian Gods inside and around you;
- See the smallest particles (atoms, etc.);
- Further develop acquired superpowers.
SAHASRARA CHAKRA (Brain Center)
Supernatural abilities:
- Reduce (increase) the size of the body;
- Reduce (increase) body weight;
- Go where you want;
- Fulfill any desire;
- Create anything;
- Control anything.
NEW MAN ~~OSHO
Our whole society was built around a certain idea, which was initially hypocritical. Here a person should be what others expect him to see, and not what he really is. That's why everything has become false, false. Even in friendship, a person keeps his distance, not letting anyone get too close to him. Probably, if someone gets too close, then he will be able to look under the mask. Or he will discover that it is not a face at all, but only a mask; the face is hidden behind a mask. In the world we live in, man has always been dishonest and false.
I see the new man as a rebel looking for his true self, his true face. The new man is ready to drop all masks, all pretense, all hypocrisy so that the world can see who he really is. It doesn't matter whether he is loved or hated, respected, honored or dishonored, brought to the throne or crucified on the cross, for to be yourself is the greatest blessing in the world. Even if a person is crucified, then the crucifixion is full of meaning and great satisfaction for him.
The new man is a truthful, sincere man, full of love and compassion; he understands that people are blind, unconscious, sleepy, in a spiritual sleep... Whatever they do, they do everything as if in a dream. Man has been conditioned for many years, his whole life, so it will take a long time to break out of this conditioning. You have been loaded with all sorts of false pseudo-ideas. It will take a long time to get rid of them, to recognize their falsity and falsity.
In fact, once you realize that something is false, it is not difficult to drop it. The moment deceit appears, it falls away by itself. It is enough just to discover it. The connection with the lie is broken, the identification with it is lost. As soon as falsehood disappears, truth appears in all its newness and beauty, because sincerity, honesty, and fidelity are all beauty. Just being yourself means being beautiful.
“You receive in your reality mainly what is within you and comes from you. Imagine that you are standing in front of a mirror. If you do not want to see hostility, aggression, condemnation, rejection in the reflection, do not send the corresponding images there. If you want love, love. If you need help, care, attention - help, take care, show a sincere interest in people. Give up the intention to receive, replace it with the intention to give, and you will receive what you have given up.” Vadim Zeland
Do you know why I say that your world is a prison? Merlin once asked. “Because everything that the mind comprehends is limited. As soon as you arrange the world around your perception or enclose it in a thought or the phrase “I know”, something amazing and invisible disappears. Boundaries are a cage, reality is a tender bird fluttering in your hands. Hold her too long and she will die.
"Wizard's Way" Deepak Chopra
You can't think the same thought all the time! This is very harmful! This can make you bored and sick.
(38 parrots)
SHAKTI - “potency”, “strength”, “energy”. In the Indian philosophical tradition, any active activity is invariably associated with the feminine, and therefore the creative energy, thanks to which the universe unfolds, is usually personified in the form of Shakti - the wife or beloved of God Shiva.
Life is a moment to be celebrated, to be enjoyed. Make it cheerful, festive, and then you will enter the temple. The temple is not for long faces, it never was for them.
Look at life - do you see sadness anywhere? Have you ever seen a tree look dull? Have you ever seen a bird suffering from persecution mania? Have you ever seen an animal suffer from neurosis? No, life is not like that, not like that at all. Only the person got lost. He has gone astray because he thinks he is very wise, very clever. Your dexterity is your disease.
Don't be too wise. Always remember to stop, do not rush to extremes. A little stupidity and a little wisdom is good, and the right combination of both will make you a buddha...
These three women, dancing in the wind and rain, remind us that celebration is never dependent on external circumstances. No need to wait for a special holiday or a formal occasion, a sunny and cloudless day. True celebration springs from joy, which is first experienced deep within and overflows in song, dance and laughter and even tears of gratitude. Let your hair down, take off your shoes and start running through the puddles right now. A holiday is happening around you every moment.
RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN:
According to the Vedas, there are eight different levels of relationships where people can be compatible with each other:
1. Corporal ("disco" love) - the lowest level.
Relationships that are built on the lower centers (bodily) will eventually come to naught. Harmony in such relationships will be present for about 6 months, but after a maximum of 2-3 years, such relationships will be exhausted. People who are similar only at this level, as a rule, find each other at entertainment events - for example, discos. Happiness for them exists only on a physical level. A marriage in which only this compatibility is present is doomed to break.
2. The level of the inguinal zone.
People who are compatible at this level, as a rule, find joint happiness in joint hobbies: traveling, camping, singing with a guitar, playing sports, etc.
3. The level of the solar plexus.
Compatibility at this level gives people a sense of harmony, peace and comfort. A female manifestation of happiness is in the joy of being close to a beloved man, as a rule, respected in society and with prosperity, and a male manifestation of happiness is in a state of peace and tranquility next to such a woman.
4. The level of the heart center is the level of the Moon.
Happiness for people at this level is in conversation. They find each other by their good qualities of character. Such people can be united by joint work for the benefit of people. Relationships begin with friendship, a woman in such a relationship wants to be protected and protected. This best view harmony, because the moon is a symbol of the strength of relationships.
5. The level of the head center.
Happiness for people who are compatible at this level of relationship lies in a subtle perception of the world. They are more familiar with the feeling of trembling happiness.
6. The level of the mind is the level of Saturn.
The relationship between a man and a woman at this level contributes to a joint deep understanding of the world.
7. Level of reason.
People who seek to find their chosen one at this level are constantly engaged in self-improvement. The girl is looking for a husband as a mentor with whom she can do spiritual practice together. When they find each other, they do not immediately understand the need to be together all their lives.
8. The highest level is the level of the divine.
People at this level of harmony leave marriage for the spiritual world.
The higher the level at which people begin to build relationships with each other, the easier it will be for them to subsequently develop all the levels that are located below, and the stronger such an alliance will be. We must strive to develop our relations and try to build them at higher levels, then they will be as harmonious as possible. For a long relationship, compatibility is desirable on at least three of the eight levels listed.
There is no way you can claim that you are who you think you are! Your thoughts about yourself change from day to day and from moment to moment. Your image of yourself is the most changeable thing in your world. He is extremely vulnerable, depends on everything that happens. Bereavement, job loss, humiliation - and your image of yourself, which you call your personality, changes very profoundly. To find out who you really are, you must first find out and understand what you are not. And in order to understand what you are not, you have to carefully observe yourself, discarding everything that does not relate to the fundamental fact "I am." Thoughts such as "I was born in a certain place, in certain time, from my parents, and now I am so-and-so, living in ..., married to ..., someone's father, working for ... ”, etc., are not inherent in the feeling “I am”. Our usual approach is: "I am this." Separate 'I am' from 'this' and 'that' persistently and persistently, and try to feel what it means to be, just to be, without 'this' and 'that'. All our habits go against this, and the fight against them is long and difficult, but a clear understanding helps a lot. The more clearly you understand that at the level of the mind you can only be described in terms of negation, the sooner you will come to the end of your search and realize your infinite being.
Nisargadatta Maharaj
BILLIONAIRES: THE GOLDEN RULES FROM WARREN BUFFET
1. Stay away from credit cards.
2. Invest only in yourself, remember that it is not money that creates a person, but a person is the one who created money.
3. Live as simply as possible.
4. Do not do what others advise, just listen to them, but do what you think is right, even if it contradicts everything that you have been advised.
5. Don't go after brands, wear what you feel comfortable in.
6. Manage your life yourself, it's YOUR life, not someone else's!
Quotes:
I just want to be forgiven and forgotten. I don't need to be remembered. You need to remember yourself. People remember Gautama Buddha, Jesus Christ, Confucius and Krishna.
It does not help.
So this is what I would like: forget me completely and forgive me too, because it will be difficult to forget me. That's why I ask you to forgive me: for causing you trouble.
Remember yourself.
Osho
I will give you good advice- do not listen to anyone's advice, including mine! Be yourself! Listen to your own voice! Any advice belongs to the past. Be at peace, don't think, don't make an effort. Truth is always here. It just Is... It's not a search, it's a cessation of distraction. Freedom is gained only by liberation from ALL concepts!!!
Papaji
Love is enough... Live only from Love. Whether it lasts long or not, don't worry about it. Even if she comes only for a moment, she will give you a taste of Eternity!
And it is quite possible that if you are not afraid, it will last longer, because fear is a poison, it poisons everything. If you don't worry about tomorrow you will be able to live today so totally that out of that totality a beautiful tomorrow will arise. But if you're afraid, you can ruin today.
Osho
THE PRAYER BY ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPERY
Lord, I ask not for miracles and not for mirages, but for the power of each day. Teach me the art of small steps.
Make me observant and resourceful so that in the variegation of everyday life I stop in time on the discoveries and experiences that excited me.
Teach me how to properly manage the time of my life. Give me a subtle flair to distinguish the primary from the secondary.
I ask for the strength of abstinence and measures so that I don’t flutter and slip through life, but reasonably plan the course of the day, I could see peaks and distances, and at least sometimes find time to enjoy art.
Help me understand that dreams cannot be help. No dreams of the past, no dreams of the future. Help me to be here and now and take this minute as the most important.
Save me from the naive belief that everything in life should be smooth. Give me a clear understanding that difficulties, defeats, falls and failures are only natural integral part life through which we grow and mature.
Remind me that the heart often argues with reason.
Send me at the right time someone who has the courage to tell me the truth, but to tell it in love!
I know that many problems are solved if nothing is done, so teach me patience.
You know how much we need friendship. Let me be worthy of this most beautiful and gentle Gift of Fate.
Give me a rich imagination, so that at the right moment, at the right time, in the right place, silently or speaking, give someone the necessary warmth.
Make me a person who knows how to get through to those who are completely “below”.
Save me from the fear of missing something in life.
Give me not what I want for myself, but what I really need.
Teach me the art of small steps."
BETWEEN US IS FREEDOM, NOT A MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE.
If two people are willingly together today, that is more than enough. If tomorrow they will feel the same - good. If not, it's their own business; no one should interfere. Until now, we have always wondered what to do with children. My answer is that the children should belong to the commune.
They can visit their parents whether they are together or not. And they must learn from their parents that love is not slavery, it is freedom. And they should be in the commune, trying, enjoying the different qualities of different people. Therefore, when the time comes to decide, their decision will not just be a stupid kind of “falling in love”, their choice will be very balanced, deliberate and meditative. Perhaps they will be together all their lives. In fact, if there is freedom, there is a chance that more people will stay together.
If marriages disappear, divorces will disappear automatically. It is a by-product of marriages. Nobody pays attention to such a simple fact: why has there been prostitution for centuries? Who created it? Who is responsible for these poor women? The institution of marriage. You are bored with your wife, and just for the sake of new experiences, you go to a woman who will not be a burden to you. Because one wife is enough, two will be too much. The second woman will only be there for a few hours. You can be sweet and loving for a few hours.
She can be sweet and loving for a few hours. And what's more, she gets paid for it. Around the world, millions of women trade their bodies. Who did it? Your political leaders, religious leaders. I think these people are criminals. And not ordinary criminals, because it is precisely because of these idiots that all of humanity has been suffering for centuries. But you have to start with yourself, there is no other way. If you love someone, then freedom should be the link between you.
And if tomorrow you see that your woman is hugging another, there is no need to be jealous. She gets rich, she wants a little novelty, exactly the same feeling you get when you go to a Chinese restaurant! This is good. You will return to your food, but the Chinese restaurant helped you; perhaps you will enjoy your food even more. But a few days later, again. That is how the mind works. You go to an Italian restaurant…. Spaghetti. I can't even look at someone eating spaghetti in front of me!
But this is my problem. Life is so simple and so beautiful, one thing is missing - freedom. If your wife was with other people, she will soon return to you enriched, with a new vision. And she will find something in you that she has never found before. You also accumulate experience, then by the time your woman returns, you are also new. You've also been to a Chinese restaurant. Life should be joy, fun. And only then friendship between men and women is possible; otherwise they will remain personal enemies.
OSHO.
A LUCKY PERSON DOES NOT HAVE ANY IDEALS ~~OSHO
A person who wants to be happy has no ideals, he is not an idealist, he is a realist. An unhappy person is always an idealist. Happy man, a blissful person is a realist: he lives moment by moment without any ideals. You cannot disappoint him because he has no expectations.
How can you talk if you have no brains? Dorothy asked.
“I don’t know,” the Scarecrow answered, “but those who have no brains are very fond of talking.
"The Wizard of Oz"
There is a hard and fast rule. You got up in the morning, washed your face, put yourself in order - and immediately put your planet in order.
How many more centuries will we accumulate knowledge before we learn to understand the simplest things.
Mirror principle. Before judging others, you should look at yourself.
The principle of pain. An offended person inflicts insults on others.
The principle of the upper road. We are moving to more high level when we start treating others better than they treat us.
boomerang principle. When we help others, we help ourselves
hammer principle. Never use a hammer to kill a mosquito on someone's forehead.
exchange principle. Instead of putting others in their place, we must put ourselves in their place.
The principle of learning. Every person we meet has the potential to teach us something.
principle of charisma. People show interest in a person who is interested in them.
Principle 10 points. belief best qualities people usually makes them show their best qualities.
The principle of confrontation. First you should take care of people and only then confront them.
Rock principle. Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
Elevator principle. In the process of relationships, we can lift people up or down.
situation principle. Never let a situation mean more to you than a relationship.
Bob principle. When Bob has problems with everyone, the main problem is usually Bob himself.
The principle of accessibility. Ease in relationship with ourselves helps others to feel free with us.
The trench principle. When you prepare for battle, dig a trench for yourself so that a friend can fit in it.
The principle of agriculture. All relationships need to be cultivated
The principle of 101 percent. Find the 1 percent that we agree with and focus 100 percent of our efforts on it.
The principle of patience. Traveling with others is always slower than traveling alone
Celebration principle. The true test of a relationship is not only how loyal we are to friends when they fail, but how much we rejoice when they succeed.
The principle of friendship. Other things being equal, people will tend to work with those they like; under other unequal conditions, they will still do it
The principle of cooperation. Collaboration increases the likelihood of joint victory
Satisfaction principle. In a wonderful relationship, it is enough for the parties to enjoy simply being together.
You were not born by chance
You are not just a first and last name social history. This is what you are really made of.
You are 70% pure water, 18% carbon, 4% nitrogen, 2% calcium, 2% phosphorus, 1% potassium, 0.5% sulfur, 0.5% sodium, 0.4% chlorine. Moreover, a good soup spoon of various trace elements: magnesium, zinc, manganese, copper, iodine, nickel, bromine, fluorine, silicon. And a pinch of cobalt, aluminum, molybdenum, vanadium, lead, tin, titanium, boron. Here is the recipe for your life.
All these substances were formed as a result of the combustion of stars and exist not only in your body. The water in your body is like the most commonplace ocean water. Phosphorus makes you related to matches. Chlorine is the same as pools are disinfected. But you are not only that.
You are a cathedral of chemistry, an amazing construction, in which dosages, balances, interaction mechanisms of almost unimaginable complexity are observed. Your molecules consist of atoms, particles, quarks, voids, all this is interconnected by electromagnetic, gravitational, electronic forces, the subtlety of which is not available to you.
Everything that surrounds you in time and space is necessary for some reason. Need you. Your ephemeral life has meaning. She leads you to a dead end. Everything makes sense. Take action. Do something, do some small thing in your life before you die. You were born for something. Understand why you were born.
What is your, albeit tiny, mission?
V. ZEALAND. LURE
For example, why is the average child behaving hysterically, acting up, constantly screaming, not sleeping well? Yes, because dead food acts on him just as strongly as stimulants and relaxants on an adult. Alcoholics and drug addicts have the same symptoms of nervous system disorders and sleep disturbances. Just the doses for each age are different. I again repeat clearly and clearly the unpleasant and inconvenient truth: there is no fundamental difference between dead food and drugs, the whole difference is only in doses.
Living food cleanses the body, and dead food clogs. If the body is not cleansed by living food, diseases will take over this work. As you know, illness is a cleansing crisis. But the cleansing properties of living food are very often perceived as a scourge that needs to be got rid of.
For example, when a mother gives her child, fed with milk mixtures and boiled cereals, some kind of living natural product, he starts indigestion, or diathesis, or even a rash all over his body.
Raw plant food produces the same effect on adults - it simply cannot be digested, or even causes allergies. Therefore, the conclusion is made: living food is harmful, and therefore we must not toil with foolishness, but eat normally, like everyone else.
There is very little research, experience and literature on the raw food diet, but there are many illiterate and stupid undertakings. That is why there is so much unfounded criticism that comes from both ignorant laymen and uninformed doctors who, as a rule, do not know what they are talking about.
Of course, living food does not linger in a dirty intestine - it immediately begins to clean it. And live food cannot be digested either, because the body, accustomed to dead foods, as a rule, suffers from dysbacteriosis, when putrefactive flora prevails, and beneficial bacteria are lacking. It will take at least a year before a healthy microflora is restored, and raw plant foods begin to be fully absorbed.
So what, turn to drugs, or “miracle yogurts”, which supposedly eliminate this problem, or turn back to eating dead food? No, live food will cleanse the body and relieve dysbacteriosis. You probably noticed that cats and dogs sometimes eat food that is unusual for them - grass. Some smart uncle once suggested that in this way they replenish the supply of vitamins. Everyone knows that green grass is vitamins. And this means that greens are sometimes very healthy to eat! But notice, "according to normal concepts" - only sometimes, not more often!
In fact, animals are engaged in nothing more than the prevention of dysbacteriosis. Especially domestic, fed human food. Green grass serves as a good source of all the necessary bacteria. That is why live green soup or just greens should be in the diet every day. Some time will pass, and live food will eliminate all problems by itself, normalize everything and create all the conditions for its assimilation.
A lobster, when thrown onto the rocks, does not have the instinct or energy to move back into the sea, but it waits for the wave to take it back.
If the wave does not come, he stays where he is thrown and dies, even though even the slightest effort may bring him closer to the waves, which may be only a yard away from him.
The world is full of lobster people who are frozen on the rocks in indecision and procrastination, and instead of putting in their efforts, waiting for the Big Wave of Fortune to take them where they need to go.
© Dr. Orison Sweet Marden
Surround yourself with people who will pull you higher. It's just that life is already full of those who want to drag you down.
Love is never a bond;
Love is being together. It is always a river, flowing, never-ending.
Love knows no dots; The honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not a novel that begins on a certain page and ends on a certain page. This is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, but love continues - this is never-ending. It's a verb, not a noun.
Why do we reduce the beauty of being together to connection? Why are we in such a hurry? Because being together is risky, and bonding offers security. There is certainty in connection; being together is only the meeting of two strangers; maybe just a stop for the night, followed by parting in the morning. Who knows what will happen tomorrow morning?
And we are so afraid that we want to make everything certain, predictable. We want tomorrow to match our ideas; we leave him no freedom to decide in his own way.
Therefore, we immediately reduce any verb to a noun. ~~OSHO
Quotes:
Do you judge by the costume? Never do this. You can make a mistake, and, moreover, very large.
M. Bulgakov, The Master and Margarita
The Nine Commandments of a Woman.
Commandment 1. "A real woman attracts men with her inner state"
This is your enjoyment of yourself and your life. If you have learned to enjoy yourself and your life, whether you work or relax, drink coffee or drive a car, you will attract the attention and interest of those who are close to you.
Enjoying yourself is not an easy art, but once you master it, you become a powerful magnet.
Commandment 2. “Love for a man begins with love for yourself”
Usually we think the other way around: “When someone loves me, then I love myself.”
But until the Woman has an affair with herself, every man will be just a psychotherapist for her, trying to cure her of her rejection of herself and the fear of being alone.
True, deep love arises from a state of self-fullness. Then love for a man will be born in its highest manifestation - as a gift of yourself to him, and not as a desperate attempt to be needed by someone in order to feel your own fullness.
Commandment 3 “A man loves not the woman herself, but his condition next to her”
Therefore, a Real Woman is not at all the most beautiful, not at all the most intelligent, and certainly not at all the most successful socially.
A real Woman gives a man not a mind, not beauty, not a body, not success, but a state. A woman who creates a special state in men - masculine - will always have success and admirers.
She creates this state by enjoying herself in the company of a man and admiring a man. And a man will be drawn to this special state like a magnet.
A real Woman cultivates femininity in herself in order to bestow it on men (beloved, admirers, friends, acquaintances, just passers-by).
Commandment 4 "The desire to love is born inside"
It, as a rule, has nothing to do with whether there are worthy objects for this in the environment of a Real Woman.
When a Woman thinks that “there is no one to choose from” and that there are no men around her worthy of her love, this may indicate that she is not yet ready to love. She wants something else (to get married, to be "like everyone else", not to be alone, to arrange her life).
She may be afraid to love (her heart is closed by past wounds). And those "unworthy" men who are around only reflect her internal state.
As soon as a woman matures to true deep love, the question "worthy - not worthy" ceases to be of paramount importance. The object (and often very "worthy" materializes, as it were, by itself
From sex to sensuality ~~OSHO
Is it really possible to drop sex by going through it? It seems like my body and mind will never stop asking for it.
Why are you in such a hurry to drop it? If you are in such a hurry to drop it, then you will never be able to do it. The very haste, the very desire to drop it, will not allow you to understand it totally. How can you understand something if you have already decided that
is it wrong that it should be discarded? You've already judged without even listening! Give your sexuality a chance.
I heard that Mulla Nasreddin was made a justice of the peace. The first case came to court, and he listened to one of the parties. Then he said:
- Now listen to my judgment. The court clerk was puzzled because he had not heard the other side yet.
He bowed to Nasreddin and said:
- What are you doing, sir? Judgment? You haven't heard the other side yet!
- What does the other side mean? Mulla said. - Do you want to confuse me? Now everything is clear! And if I listen to the other side, I'll be confused. Then it will be very difficult to judge.
But will it be judgment? You didn't listen to the other side at all. You have been listening to so-called saints for centuries - they are very persuasive. All their sexual energy has become an anti-sex rhetoric – you listened to them. You never let your own sexuality speak. No, it won't be right, you're prejudiced. Why? Who knows? Maybe it's not something that should be discarded. Then?.. Who knows? Maybe that's just the way to go.
Stay open. I'm not saying anything except for you to stay open. Meditate deeply. While you are making love, let meditativeness permeate your act of love. Watch! And forget all the prejudices you were brought up with - all this conditioning against sex will make you more sexual, and then you will think that your problem is sexuality.
The problem is not the sexual energy itself. The problem is the anti-sexual mind that creates perversion.
What are those sounds over there? Alice asked, nodding at a very secluded thicket of some pretty vegetation at the edge of the garden.
- And these are miracles, - the Cheshire Cat explained indifferently.
- And.. And what are they doing there? the girl asked, blushing inevitably.
- As expected, - the Cat yawned. - They happen...
Alice in Wonderland
She is always successful and strong.
She is always beautiful and stylish.
She doesn't cry when it hurts a lot.
She is always happy with everything.
She has the right to make mistakes.
She meets difficulties with a smile.
She forgives those who are lost.
And releases those who did not say goodbye.
She does not take revenge, leaving it weak.
She is admired for her courage.
She does not create idols for herself.
She lives and rules her world.
She is not looking for disagreements in time.
She does not recognize the bridle and stirrup.
She lives in the element of change.
She does not give love in return ...
It's not perfect, but it's divine.
All because she is just a WOMAN!
THIS IS WRITTEN BY A MAN:
Be men!
Forget the recent feminist uprising - carry bags for women, pay for them in cafes, open doors for them, protect them, take on their problems.
Maybe you will understand why all this is, and why exactly you, when you come home for the thousandth time, and everything is so cozy there, your towels of different colors are in the bathroom, there is a plate with dinner. Or maybe when everything goes wrong - work, business, friends, and she is your good one, she will be next to you every day - kiss your hands, lie in a ball at your feet and tell you that you are the best. Or maybe when you see how much health and nerves she lost while carrying your child under her heart, or when, after 12-16-20 hours of labor in pain, she will give you an heir.
Be kind to her.
Stop ruffling her nerves with your pride, male logic, strength of character. Call her. Especially when you have a fight, call her. If you could only see how bitterly she cries after you hung up the phone, slammed the door. No, she cries not so beautifully, as they show in the films, in a small pillow and quietly. She sobs uncontrollably, smearing tears over her ugly, swollen, red face. She can be heard on the street, in the next apartment. She howls from the pain you inflict on her. Call her, come back, come. Grab her in your arms and take her out of this grief, like from a fire in a fire.
Don't offend her.
Don't shout, don't insult. You kill her with words. Her, kind, gentle, real. She becomes angry, cruel and vengeful, simply because you once threw an evil "bitch!" in her face. You later regretted a thousand times what was said, done, abandoned in the hearts. But the moment has already passed. Part of her has already died, because you can’t even imagine how unbearably painful it is to hear evil words from your most beloved and dear. You will make peace later, but she still will not forget. She won’t remind you, but she will scroll through your words in her head more than once, cry alone, cut her heart into small pieces. And then you, dear men, will wonder where there is so much cynicism and indifference in her.
She sews and knits it from the scars on her heart. The scars that you left there.
Jealous of her.
Passionately, violently, furiously. Hit the walls with your fists, stomp your feet, destroy everything around. Just don't ever tell her it's her fault. Don't blame her, don't blame her. Let it be better "that goat that looked at her" will be wrong in everything. But let her remain holy to you. Trust me if she wants to change
she will change and you won't know. But if you noticed, she did it on purpose. Whatever at least so you showed her that you are jealous, which means you love, appreciate and are afraid to lose. It means that she doubted herself, in your feelings. It means that he is afraid for your “we”.
Talk to her about it more often. Say that she is your everything, that with her, as in paradise.
Let it be cinematic feigned, let it be. Speak! If suddenly tomorrow it will not be. But someday she won't be. After all, someday we will all be gone.
Life, because it is so short, so unpredictable, can end in an instant. So, if she is gone tomorrow, you will never have a chance to tell her everything. Speak, dear ones, speak. Promise, do not spare promises, do not be afraid to deceive.
She is so happy when she hears promises, when she dreams, she hopes for something very good. She is so beautiful at this moment, she is so…
Didn't she deserve it? Yes, even if you part the day after tomorrow, isn't it worth all those fifteen minutes when you were hugging and dreaming about your beautiful future! Costs! Every second is worth it! Because there are so few of these seconds in our lives.
Rules for a clear life.
1. If you promised to call back, call back.
2. Are you running late? Find a way to warn about it.
3. Don't laugh at other people's dreams.
4. Don't go back to the people who betrayed you.
5. Spend more time with your parents - the moment when they are gone always comes unexpectedly.
6. Politeness conquers cities. Use more often.
7. Learn to admit your mistakes.
8. Give up the habit of complaining.
9. Even with a serious quarrel, do not try to hurt a person to the quick ... You will make peace (most likely), and the words will be remembered for a long time ...
10. Tell the truth, and then you won't have to remember anything.
11. At the beginning of the day, do the most difficult and unpleasant thing.
When you have done it - the rest of the day you are not overcome by unnecessary thoughts.
12. Nobody owes anything to anyone. Forget the word "should". Ejection from the active lexicon. Otherwise, you will really get bogged down in debt, and not only material, but also moral.
One day someone came to Solomon, who was eating figs, and said:
Help me, king! My son has to make a choice between two women and I can't bear to watch him suffer.
The king looked up at the sky and said:
- Choice is not what we choose. Choice is what we give up.
And he asked again:
- What do you do for a living?
The petitioner replied:
- I'm a bricklayer. That's what my father decided.
Then Solomon said:
Your father didn't think so. He decided: “Wouldn't it be better for my son to go to study with a carpenter? Doesn't he have the ability to become a fisherman?"
And the king also said:
- Every time you choose one thing, you give up everything else. The time allotted to us is not enough to master all the skills, taste all the fruits and know all the women.
And after a silence he added:
Make it a rule to always know what you are giving up. This will save you from useless throwing and unnecessary disappointments. Always remember this, and your path will be pure and full of truth.
The petitioner bowed and left. Solomon looked after him and whispered:
But know that there is no choice.
Hold me, that's all I need right now. This gesture is as ancient as humanity itself, and it means much more than just the contact of two bodies. I hug you - it means that there is no threat from you, I'm not afraid to let you get very close - it means that I feel good, calm, and next to me is someone who understands me. They say that every sincere and heartfelt hug prolongs our lives by one day.
Paulo Coelho
Why do you call yourself Bhagwan (i.e. God)? - once asked Rajneesh.
Because I am and because you are. And because only God exists. There is no choice between being God or not being: the choice is whether you recognize it or not. You can choose not to recognize it, but you cannot choose not to be... God binds everything. He is inside and outside of you... When I call myself God, it means that I encourage you to change yourself. I call myself God simply so that you too can muster all your courage to admit it. If you recognize it in me, you are taking the first step in recognizing it in yourself. It will be very difficult for you to recognize this in yourself. Because you have always been taught to judge yourself. You have always been taught that you are sinners. Here I am throwing all this nonsense away. My belief is that the only thing you lack is the courage to admit who you really are...
And now, standing at the very edge of the world, at the gates of the Ocean, waist-deep in a searing cold wave… without fears, clothes and other things that separates… I COULD UNDERSTAND. That wherever I fly and rush, wherever trains and planes carry me, skyscrapers of what heights and jungles of what forests would not surround me ...
Everywhere I take WITH MYSELF - MYSELF, and nowhere will I be different - kinder or wiser.
A holy place will make me tremble, but it won't make me holy.
A light breeze from the sea will calm me, but will not make me calm.
The valley of mountain meadows will open the heart, but will not make me open.
The only place that can bring me change, where I can hope for salvation and peace, is...
…inside my soul.
Only there — by my will and desire — is the New born. Only there I am born again.
My next flight is there.
Start seeing the good in your husband. When we chose him, we saw his strengths in him. Then we start to get impudent, and this is already becoming the norm.
Well, yes, she wears flowers once a week, so what? Well, yes, he earns enough so that I can not work, and what is this - a feat or what? Well, yes, he walks with a child - but he is a common one! And so on. But if you think about it, isn't all this important and worthy of respect?
Just start writing it down strengths in a notebook. Remember all that he does for you and for the family, everything that he did once. And complete the list. Then you can see it with different eyes. You will be able to understand what a wonderful person you live with.
You can always find strengths in everyone. You just need to push aside grievances and claims - and remember
One of the laws of life says that as soon as one door closes, another opens. But the whole trouble is that we look at the locked door and do not pay attention to the opened one.
Suffering is needed until you realize that it is not needed.
Your thoughts make you unhappy. Your interpretations, the stories you tell yourself, are what makes you unhappy.
Eckhart Tolle.
The power of thought
The saying that “all our thoughts materialize” is not empty words, but a fact proven by scientists and psychologists, which they directly associate with the law of attraction.
If you think about it, each of us, having thought about something, soon noticed that the thought was “embodied” in life. For example, a woman, dreaming about the attention of a certain man, noticed that he really began to show signs of attention to her ...
If you look at the power of thought from the other side, it turns out that we ourselves attract all the troubles, problems and ordinary troubles into our lives: complaining about poverty, we can’t get out of debt; complaining about failures in personal life, we remain lonely; thinking about poor health, we constantly “catch” sores and viruses, etc.
Of course, all this can be attributed to ordinary coincidences, but ... Studying the human subconscious, scientists have long come to the conclusion that our thoughts are a kind of magnet that attracts the desired and makes it real.
Based on this, many psychologists are seriously engaged in the development of techniques, having mastered which, most people achieve what they want in the shortest possible time: they become more successful, more financially secure, make progress in their careers and create happy families. How does this happen? The long formulation boils down to a simple conclusion: to become more successful, it is enough to learn how to think and desire correctly!
Wish carefully!
Because the first rule of the law of attraction is that our desires, correctly formulated, will certainly come true. True, not immediately. Probably, many girls had to notice such a pattern: you dream of a guy, inconsolably shed tears into your pillow, unsuccessfully trying to attract the attention of a sweetheart. Time passes, the girl forgets about her hobby, and here you get: the once adored passion appears on the horizon.
And all because (and this is proved by the research of scientists!), That we, according to the law of attraction, ourselves attract into our lives everything that we eventually have in it. That is, subconsciously desired sooner or later becomes valid. This applies to almost all areas of life: health, career, wealth, relationships with the opposite sex.
Remember our thoughts are our desires
Our subconscious is inextricably linked with the Universe, which captures our thoughts, perceiving them as our desires. This is where the greatest danger lies. While the woman is lamenting that she is lonely, the Universe takes the complaint for ... desire, and materializes the thought. As a result, years go by, fans change, but the woman is still lonely ... Because with the help of attraction, SAMA attracted loneliness into her life, but she cannot or does not want to start thinking differently. After all, it is not so easy to eradicate the habit of thinking about the bad in oneself - it is easier for most of us to complain about fate and grumble that life does not add up.
And it turns out a vicious circle: we complain - the Universe fixes "complaints" as "desires" - "desires" are fulfilled - we complain even more ... The same can be said about our fears. It is not for nothing that they say that what happens to us is what we are most afraid of.
Think right!
The above suggests the question: how to learn to think correctly - so as to change the fate of better side and attract the desired benefits into your life?
The answer is simple: you need to learn how to formulate your desires correctly! And before that, it doesn’t hurt to get rid of the old, negative thoughts that we used to live with. They need to be thrown away like old trash, reconsider the past, define a happy future, and from now on think only positively about it! Our own beliefs, painted in black, are the key to the same hopeless life with a lot of problems and a lack of bright prospects. It's time to change!
Visualize your desires!
This is the most effective and effective method for materializing your own thoughts. In order for the desired to be fulfilled, you need to understand and clearly imagine what you want, and think through all the details.
At the beginning of the new millennium, the Dalai Lama formed 18 rules of life.
1. Consider that great love and great success come with great risk.
2. When you lose, you don't lose experience.
3. Follow the eternal three rules:
a) Respect yourself
b) Respect others
c) Don't shirk responsibility for your actions.
4. Remember that what you want is not always what you really need.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them correctly.
6. Don't let a small argument ruin a big friendship.
7. If you made a mistake, immediately do everything to correct it.
8. Sometimes you need to listen to yourself, alone.
9. Feel free, but don't overstep boundaries.
10. Remember that sometimes silence is the best answer.
11. Live a decent life so that later, in old age, you have something to remember.
12. A loving atmosphere is the basis for your life.
13. In disputes, speak only about the present, do not recall the past.
14. Share your knowledge. This is the way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the Earth. Love her.
16. Once a year, go somewhere you've never been before.
17. Remember that best relationship, these are those in which each half, no matter who she is with, remembers you.
18. Sometimes you have to give up what you want in order to get it.
Quotes:
As soon as you disappear, there and then, within you, the Divine will manifest. You are the seed if you dissolve, it sprouts. But you cling to the shell of the seed, you probably think that this is your life; if you lose her, you lose yourself. But the sheath of the seed is not your life, your life is hidden within it; if the shell bursts, the seed will sprout. The shell is always dead, the germ will be alive. And don't be afraid to lose your seed, when you become a tree, millions of seeds will sprout from you! But how is this to be explained to the seed? It is afraid that its shell will burst))) Osho.
All the people sent to us are our reflection. And they were sent so that we, looking at these people, correct our mistakes, and when we correct them, these people either change too or leave our lives.
Boris Pasternak
no one limits you, no one puts you in a box, look at the universe, it is infinite, like your experience and development, it is free, it is beautiful. And this is a reflection of ourselves, I see it this way. Only the person himself does not allow himself to do what he wants, only you yourself shackle yourself in chains with your thoughts about: I can’t, it won’t work, it doesn’t happen, etc.
Spread your wings and fly like a butterfly, enjoying the process itself and feeling that everything in this world is subject to you, if you allow yourself to do it))))
ABOUT ENLIGHTENMENT ~~OSHO
Question:
Osho, you tell us to be here and now, without goals and aspirations, but then you lure us into talking about ecstasy, enlightenment, freedom and the possibility of achieving them. All this sounds contradictory. Please explain.
There is no contradiction here, it's just a fact. But the mind goes on creating problems where there are none. The mind is a machine for creating problems.
When I tell you that ecstasy is beautiful, that enlightenment is pure bliss, I am not talking about the future, I am not luring you anywhere. I'm stating a fact.
When I tell you to be here and now, without any goals or aspirations, I am simply showing you how enlightenment can happen right now.
Enlightenment is not a distant goal, it is a possibility of the present. You may miss it. But this does not mean that it is somewhere far away from you - it just means that you are fast asleep. You may miss it. This does not mean that you have to work hard to get it, it just means that you are not aware of what has always surrounded you.
I will continue to talk about enlightenment, because without it you cannot be alive. It only seems to you that you exist - it is not so. Without it, you go on missing life. But remember, I don't create goals for your desires. Enlightenment cannot be the goal. This needs to be understood. You can't wish for nirvana.
I will explain to you. When you desire something, you create tension. Desire breeds anxiety. Whatever you desire, you are looking to the future. Is it possible to wish in the present? There is simply no room for your desire in the present. It can only exist in the future. Desire is always connected with something in the future, with something that is not here, now. You can't want what's already there.
You can enjoy it, but you cannot desire. You can live it, you can dance it, but you cannot desire. That is why all the Buddhas tell us: "Be free from desires." But the problem with people is that they understand these words in their own way, as if they are told: "Make freedom from desires your goal."
We turn everything into a goal. Think of something and the mind immediately brings it to the point - and there is a problem, immediately. And the mind starts looking for a solution: "how" to achieve this, "how" to get that, "how" to become that? You again stepped on the usual path, you again missed.
When the Buddhas tell you, "Give up desire," they are not trying to set a goal for you. They just say, “Look at your desire. Be aware of it, be aware of its emptiness. Look deeply into it, penetrate as deeply as possible - and this very penetration will help: the desire will disappear.
When you realize the absolute futility of desire, do you ask how to drop it? When the absolute futility of desire is revealed to you, it will fall away by itself.
But you go on asking because you are still clinging to the desire. You still want to keep it. You still think that there is something in it: "Maybe I'm missing something, maybe I'm not trying hard, maybe I'm going in the wrong direction - but there must be something." You are still hopeful.
If you look at the nature of desire, you will understand: it is like a horizon. It appears in the distance - somewhere there. You move forward and it moves with you. And when you get to the point where you thought earth and sky were supposed to meet, you find that it isn't. And the horizon is visible again - at the same far distance from you. And the horizon keeps moving with you. The distance between you and the horizon is always the same.
Just look at desire and you will understand it. Meditate on desire and it will become a fact. This is not a desire theory.
Many times you have decided that you will not get angry again, you have tried to follow this decision, but it still happens. You have tried not to be greedy, but again and again you fall into the trap of greed. You've tried every possible thing to change yourself, but nothing ever seems to work. You remain the same.
And I'm saying here that there is a simple key - awareness. You can't believe it. How can mindfulness, just mindfulness, help if nothing else has helped?
The keys are always very small; keys are small things. But a small key can open a very large lock.
When people asked the Buddha, “What should we do to not get angry, what should we do to not be greedy, what should we do to not be so obsessed with sex and food?” His answer was always the same:
“Be aware. Bring awareness into your life."
His disciple Ananda, seeing again and again that different people come to the Buddha with different problems, but the recipe always remains the same, was at a loss. He said:
How so? They bring all sorts of diseases: one brings greed, another brings sex and food, the third brings something else - but your recipe is always the same!
And the Buddha said:
- Different people have different illnesses - just like different people can have different dreams.
If two thousand people fall asleep, they will have two thousand dreams. But if you come to me and ask me how to get rid of these dreams, the cure is one for everyone: "Wake up." The remedy will be exactly the same for everyone; the recipe will be the same.
You can call it awareness, you can call it witnessing - they are different names for the same medicine.
~Osho~
5 rules of life from Angelina Jolie:
1. I have no regrets. Never regretted. And I don't believe in the fruitfulness of regrets. While you regret, you are ashamed of yourself. While you are ashamed in a cage.
2. You never need to look for someone to blame, you need to live without hurting anyone, not judge other people and be absolutely free.
3. We love someone not because we finally met the ideal, but because we saw it in someone imperfect.
4. I don't have many close friends with whom I could open up. Therefore, loneliness is sometimes also a worthy interlocutor.
5. When you do something for others from the bottom of your heart, without expecting gratitude, someone writes it in the book of fate and sends happiness that you never even dreamed of.
Eliminate obstacles on the way to success!
If you want to create a successful business, get best job, increase your income or create the perfect relationship, you will have to find a way to get rid of these false beliefs and conditioned behaviors (automatic reactions in certain situations):
1. “Mistakes and defeats are bad/shameful/dangerous.”
2. "I'm not good/smart/capable enough."
3. "Change is very difficult."
4. "I'm worthless/not important to anyone."
5. "I only have value when others think well of me."
6. "I'm not doing anything well/correctly."
7. "I'm incapable of anything."
8. “I don’t understand anything.”
9. “I look/act/speak stupid/ridiculous/doesn’t fit…(e.g. environment).”
10. “If I make a mistake or fail, I will be rejected.”
11. "I'm a loser."
12. "I never get what I want."
13. "I can not ...".
14. "People don't care about my opinion."
15. "What I think is completely irrelevant."
16. “Drawing attention to yourself is dangerous! Something bad might happen."
17. "I'm only good/worthy when I'm perfect."
18. “If I act, I will certainly make a mistake / fail.”
19. "I'm stupid/weak."
1. Conditioned behavior:
fear of criticism and evaluation of you or your actions.
2. Conditioned Behavior: Fear of failing, disappointing
3. Conditioned Behavior: Fear of Attention
4. Conditioned behavior: fear of rejection.
Just imagine what your life will be like when you can “turn off” those fears and limiting beliefs that are holding you back from creating a successful business, happy relationships, new achievements in life…
You will simply not be stopped!
When George Carlin's wife died, Carlin, the famous wit and satirist of the 70s and 80s, wrote this incredibly eloquent article that is still relevant today.
“The paradox of our times is that we have tall buildings but low tolerance, broad highways but narrow views.
We spend more but have less; we buy more but enjoy less.
We have bigger houses but smaller families, better amenities but less time.
We have a better education, but less intelligence, better knowledge, but a worse assessment of the situation, more experts, but more problems, better medicine, but worse health.
Drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get angry too easily, stay up too late, wake up too tired, read too little, watch too much TV, and pray too little.
They increased their claims, but reduced their values.
We talk too much, love too little, and hate too often. We know how to survive, but we don't know how to live. Adding years to human life but do not add life to years.
We reached the moon and returned, but with difficulty we cross the street and get to know our new neighbor.
We conquer outer space, but not spiritual ones.
We do big, but not the best things.
We clean the air, but we pollute the soul.
They subjugated the atom, but not their prejudices.
We write more, but we learn less.
We plan more, but achieve less.
Learned to hurry, but not to wait.
Building new computers that store more information and spew out streams of copies than before, but communicate less and less.
This is a time of fast food and bad digestion, big people and small souls, quick profits and difficult relationships.
A time of growing family incomes and growing divorces, beautiful houses and destroyed homes.
Remember, spend more time with those you love, because they are not with you forever.
Remember and warmly press loved one to yourself, because this is the only treasure that you can give from the heart, and it is not worth a penny.
Remember and say "I love you" to your loved ones, but first really feel it.
Kiss and hugs can fix any trouble when they come from the heart.
Remember and hold hands and appreciate the moments when you are together, because one day this person will not be there for you.
✿ CLEARANCE ON THE EMOTIONAL LEVEL.
All diseases are laid first of all not in the physical body. Therefore, it is also very important to cleanse yourself of mental and emotional problems.
Even modern doctors have come to the conclusion that many physical illnesses arise from negative thoughts and emotions. If a person is pessimistic or thinks of someone with anger, it reflects on him.
For emotional cleansing.
● Try to get rid of negative emotions. The emotion of anger is especially destructive, it instantly starts dangerous biochemical processes in the body. We need to take care of ourselves and not allow negative thoughts, because they complicate our life in the first place.
Even if you are very attentive to emotions, you can be influenced by someone else's energy. Just as you can dirty the physical body, you can also pollute the emotional body. And even if you just talked with a negative or, as they say in modern psychology, an unresourceful person who is riddled with fear, you can get infected with this mood. It seems that before that you lived calmly, but here you also begin to have similar fears. All this deforms the subtle body, and over time, problems begin at the physical level, and even life difficulties: a person attracts a certain reality into his life and, as a result, cannot achieve anything in his career, in his personal life, and so on.
● Don't get addicted to memories. We need memories as the realization of a certain experience. If we tried to walk along the road twice and fell down twice, because there is a hole in the middle, it means that there is no need to go there the third time. At the same time, an ordinary person most often regrets the past and dreams about the future. But our strength is to live in the present. Most of our energy is taken away by negative memories, resentments. It happens that a person was offended at school, and he remembers this all his adult life. Some studies even show that it is resentment that causes serious diseases, such as cancer. Don't suppress memories or ignore them. But, if memories come, one must observe them without emotional overtones; yes, it was and gone. It is even worth drawing such a diagram: draw a straight line and mark on it all the periods when something unpleasant happened to you. And in this place draw flowers or something else that you associate with love. Imagine how the energy of love fills these periods. And if you do it sincerely once or twice, then usually negative thoughts go away.
● For an emotional mood, it is also desirable to take a shower - cool in the morning and warm in the evening. You can even say: “Where there is water, there is trouble” (sleep, illness, etc.). By the way, this was accepted in Russia, I was taught this by Slavic healers. At the same time, you need to imagine that everything unpleasant leaves you with water.
● Chat with interesting, wise people who might teach you something.
Lighter forms of meditation are very helpful. Now many people think that in order to meditate, you need to be a yogi or live in the Himalayas. But it's not. If you come in the evening upset from work, try meditating. Take a shower, turn off the TV. And sit for 10 minutes in silence, watch your breath, watch your mind. Yogis have a "pranayama" system, when a person breathes in a certain way, and all the negative goes away. It is also very important to say: “I wish everyone divine love” or “I wish everyone happiness” - and imagine how the energy of love and bliss permeates your every cell and goes from you to other people. First of all, to your offenders. It clears the mind.
Rami Blekt
It is very easy to become a monk or a nun, to renounce your feelings, stuff them deep inside yourself and not take any responsibility, considering yourself a spiritual person who has not sinned and isolating yourself completely from the outside world.
It is more difficult to love, not to claim a right, not to be jealous, and to give freedom to the beloved - this is a great achievement. This is the only way to know the aroma of love. Listen to your heart .... be able to splash out emotions and not see anything sinful and bad in it. It is a whole life, experience and art.
“It is sad that people are poor because they have not yet decided to be rich. They are overweight and in poor condition. physical form because they have not yet decided to be healthy and athletic. People waste their time because they have not yet decided to spend their time productively in whatever they do.”
Men love sex, they love women who love sex, so is it worth it to be shy and repeat after bad mistresses, and just not very smart women “they only need this ...”. After all, we know for sure that this is not so!
1. You can’t make love on a full stomach, burdened with a hearty dinner, otherwise the man will be lethargic and sleepy, and the blood will rush to the stomach, and not where it needs to be.
2. For “eating” and drinking before sex, aphrodisiac foods are best suited: seafood; oysters (by the way, Casanova adored them); milkshake with fresh fruit; fried eggs; sandwiches with caviar; a glass of aniseed vodka; chops with garlic and other "garlic" dishes (must eat together!); chocolate; pine and any other nuts; sour cream and fresh herbs; spicy, but not very high-calorie dishes; vegetable and fruit salads, as well as fresh fruits and vegetables; spicy dishes (about the temperament of Caucasians, I think you have heard more than once); mulled wine (in large doses causes drowsiness); a bell (in large doses causes a violation of coordination of movements); a glass of cognac; glass of wine; a cup of cocoa, strong tea or coffee.
3. A good lover always knows what her man wants. She guesses or feels it, calculates it by selection, and with sufficient experience she even applies the theory of probability. Sex ends in bed, and begins with thoughts and conversations, trust and joint experiences. Men make love with their brains, not "one place" and only fuck with women who don't understand it.
4. It is necessary not to think, but to give a man what he wants, fill him with caresses, fulfill whims, but not be intrusive in personal relationships (for example, “torment” him with calls, demanding attention to yourself). The strongest networks are invisible. It is with them that the skilled seductress braids the body, soul and brain of a man.
5. Even the geisha knew the right way to "spell" - copying the gestures, words, facial expressions of a man. Psychologists say that the easiest way to achieve the location of a new acquaintance is by copying him. Probably, the establishment of contact occurs subconsciously, on the basis of ancient instincts, which can still be peeped in animals. The interlocutor takes you for a member of his flock, as if you are performing some kind of ritual dance together. Contact also has feedback. You begin to better understand the interlocutor, which means you better meet his expectations.
6. An extra-class lover does not allow herself to become a "bag lover" who buys clothes on her own whim or according to her own, not very good, taste. Compliance, even without seeing the chosen one, is a preliminary setting for the man of your dreams. You have to approach the issue of clothing from a completely different side, from the side of a man who looks at you for the first time. And he looks not at clothes at all, but at you as a whole. And he doesn't care about the cost of your outfit. The maximum that an average man is able to calculate is a woman dressed from the Chinese market or from an expensive store. Clothes are more often noticed when they don't fit.
7. The main thing in a relationship with a man is to first give everything that you have, without thinking about yourself, without selfishness and miscalculations of what will happen next, without fear of spoiling, and then get tripled for it.
8. You should not look into the eyes of a man after the first night spent together with the question: “When will you come next time?” It is very important for a man to feel like a master. By calling him at home and at work, you put him in an awkward position in front of colleagues, and maybe another woman with whom he will not part until he is convinced that you are better. Why ruin everything from the start? So, a good lover will never allow herself to be obsessive.
9. The last thing men like is being put in front of a tough choice. A man is lost, embittered and ... does completely illogical acts, in which he later repents for a long time. Why test his feelings for strength, if the same forces can be used to make them stronger?
20 things I didn't know when I was 20
1. The world wants you to stay dumb.
The dumber you are, the easier it is for you to sell products and services. The diagonal size of the TV is inversely proportional to the IQ.
2. Do not blindly believe in the educational system.
The curriculum is outdated on the first day you start your studies. (An exception is fundamental programs, but only in the exact sciences; the question of applying fundamental knowledge in everyday life remains open.)
3. Read non-stop, read as much as possible.
You never know when new knowledge and concepts will come in handy, but you will be much better prepared for life's surprises.
4. Learn to communicate with others.
Avoiding people, considering them unworthy of your communication, means not finding clients, friends, or work in the future.
5. Being shy is a waste of time. Don't let emotions rule your decision-making processes.
6. If you don’t like something in a relationship with another person, in the event of your breakup, this “something” will be the reason.
7. As much as possible communicate with people older than you. Try to understand their value system, their outlook and the logical connections between the situation and the decisions made.
8. Find people to admire and try to outdo them.
9. Over time, people become more conservative. If you want to do risky things, do them while you are young. I came to the conclusion a long time ago that reformism is the result of a lack of knowledge, not a focus.
10. Don't spend money on nonsense: save it for something serious (including your startup). It will also teach you how to spend money in business: wisely and for a purpose.
11. When choosing between spending money on things or experiences, choose experiences. The joy of impressions and memories is higher.
12. After you have learned how to save, learn how to earn.
13. Learn to program.
It is easier to make a prototype yourself than to spend time and money explaining it to someone else. If you don't want to code, learn how to do something with your hands so that you can produce something useful.
14. Don't gain weight when you're young. This will shorten your active life by 10-20 years.
15. Learn how to cook food. Best time for thinking about something - when you cut the ingredients for a salad or soup.
16. Get enough sleep at night. Lack of sleep greatly affects the quality of decision making.
17. Write down your activities. Memory is not enough, no matter how fantastic it may be.
18. Have a big dream. Being flexible is great, but without dreams it can turn into running in circles.
19. Become an expert in your field before changing the field of activity. The point here is the 10,000 hour rule, and the fact that a good generalist must have been a good specialist in the past.
20. Don't try to fix people. Look for those who are not yet corrupted.
Bonus:
Learn 2-3 foreign languages. Knowing a language also provides an understanding of culture and an understanding of diverse points of view and values.
Learn to speak culturally and write without mistakes. The ability to speak fluently and to the point will come in handy when you convey the company's point of view to consumers, as well as manage people.
Learn to compete ethically in the areas of life you need. Life is a very competitive thing, and the inability to compete reduces your chances of changing your position or social status.
OSHO:
What if you wake up every morning and do what you always do, just because you have to. Who needs? For what? What to do if you wake up and realize that there is no purpose in life? There is no point in your existence...
OSHO: Just live. With love. To the world around you and to yourself in it. Live with pleasure and have no reason to repent. And do not think about the purpose of life. At all.
What is the meaning of a rose or a cloud floating in the sky? It makes no sense, but what a stunning beauty! There is no point. The river is flowing all the time, and it gives so much joy that no meaning is needed.
And if a person could live without asking about the meaning, live from moment to moment, beautifully, blissfully, without any explanation ... Just breathing is enough. Why do you ask what to live for? Why do you make life so businesslike?
Isn't love enough? Do I need to ask what is the meaning of love?
And if there is no point in love, then of course your life becomes loveless. You are asking the wrong question. Love is sufficient in itself; it doesn't need any other meaning to make it beautiful, joyful.
Birds sing in the morning... what's the point?
To me, the whole existence is meaningless. And the more I became silent, attuned to existence, the clearer it became that there was no need for meaning. ~~OSHO
FAITH IS BLINDNESS, ALL BELIEFS IS BLINDNESS, WHO HAS NO INTELLIGENCE TO SEARCH - ANY MEDIUM - MUST BELIEVE ~~OSHO (PART ONE)
Faith is blind. It has no rational proof for itself. It is based on your psychological need, it has no objective proof. You want to believe, because without faith you feel empty, just like a piece of wood floating in no one knows where.
Faith is blindness. All beliefs are blindness. Trust is something completely different.
If you believe, there is no need for an experiment. So anyone who does not want to risk anything, who does not have the intelligence to search - any mediocrity - is obliged to believe. Only the mediocre believe. The greater their stupidity, the greater their faith. The more their mediocrity, the stronger their fanaticism.
Believe and you will never find, and whatever you find will be nothing more than a projection of your own belief - it will not be the truth.
And to doubt is one of the most precious things in life, because if you don't doubt, you don't discover.
You must sharpen the power of your doubt so that you cut off all nonsense and ask questions that no one has an answer to. Only your own question will help you come to a realization of the answers.
Don't let your doubt die. This is the most precious thing you have, because someday doubt will help you discover the truth.
All that science has achieved in three hundred years is all thanks to doubt. And for ten thousand years, religion has achieved nothing - because of faith.
You can see, anyone who has eyes can see how much science has achieved in spite of all the obstacles on the part of religious people. What was the main strength of science? In doubt.
Doubt, doubt all the time until you get to the point where you can no longer doubt. And you can no longer doubt only if you know something yourself. Then there will be no question of doubt, no way for doubt.
Doubt, doubt everything, because doubt is a cleansing process. It removes all rubbish from your mind. It makes you innocent again, makes you a child again, who was destroyed earlier by parents, priests, politicians, teachers. You must open this child again. You need to start from this position.
It will hurt you because religious ideas have become so close to you that you have forgotten that they are not your discoveries, they are not your experiences. You didn't live by them; you didn't even love them. Someone else made you believe in them, and whoever did it did an inhumane act towards you.
I'm not saying that people do it consciously. They themselves are victims of the same process. Their parents did the same to them, their teachers did the same to them. So I don't say you should be angry with them. They did it thinking it was good for you... but just because they think it is, nothing is good - just because they think it is. They have tried to help you, but they don't know that there are things that a person should be left alone with.
Do not try to impose your help on anyone until he can manage on his own. Don't force anyone to look through your eyes when they have their own eyes. And at least please don't cover his eyes with your glasses; you have different diopters. You will make this person blind. You will break his vision. But not only glasses are put on you, people put their own eyes over your eyes ... and they do all this for your good, for your good. And after twenty, thirty years of continuous formation, you begin to forget that you yourself have never asked the question.
All you have to leave behind is the rubbish that others have forced upon you.
Only blind people believe in the light. Those who have eyes... they don't believe in the light; they just see it.
And you are not blind. Maybe you just keep your eyes closed. Maybe no one told you that you can open your eyes. That is why you live in darkness, and out of the darkness you ask, "Is there light?"
You have been taught to believe – since childhood, the mind of every child is trained to believe: to believe in God, to believe in the soul, to believe in this and to believe in that. Now this belief has entered into your flesh and blood, but still it remains a belief: you yourself do not know anything ... These beliefs can never go very deep, they always remain on the surface. Scratch them a little and you will see unbelief underneath.
Do you believe in God. Then you have a failure in business, and suddenly there is unbelief. You say, "I don't believe, I can't believe in God." You believe in God, but your beloved dies, and your unbelief comes to the surface. Do you believe in God and just from the death of your beloved your faith is destroyed? Then it's not worth much.
People either cling to theism, or – those who are a little stronger, more intelligent, intelligentsia – they cling to atheism. But both of them run from doubt. And to run from doubt is to run from questions, because what is doubt? It's just a question mark. It is not your enemy. It's just a question mark within you, a question mark that prepares you to ask.
A closed system is always afraid of any new truth, because the new truth shakes the whole system. It will need to be reorganized.
Only little opening yourself - and you are a different being, because truth is born in you. It may only be a seed, but a start has been made.
You will feel a new excitement, it is impossible if I give you a new belief, a dogma ready to use, an ideology. That's why I don't give you anything.
My only function is to leave you alone with me.
I said that I trust you. Therefore, I do not give you any faith, because I know that you have the absolute ability to discover love, life, laughter.
You just need to throw off all the stones piled on you. Do not cling to these stones. They are your enemies.
And you will be surprised: the moment you drop the burden, you will be able to open your wings to the vast world that has been waiting and waiting for you.
YOU ARE GOD ~~OSHO
The idea that you are God can help you immensely. Just start living that way. Walk like God, walk like you would walk if you were God, and suddenly you will see many changes taking place in your energy.
Sit like God, talk and act like God. But always remember that you are God, just like anyone else. Look at the tree as if you created it. You are God and so is the tree.
Soon, once you have created this climate and become really rooted, you will see that you breathe differently, you love differently, you talk differently and you communicate differently. This climate will change everything around you.
9 GAMES THAT OUR BRAIN PLAYS
1. I would be happier if I had to work less.
Our mind often resorts to this argument, saying that we would be happier if we didn't have to work. We imagine a life full of entertainment and are deceived into thinking that this would make us happier. However, idleness is often main reason boredom. We are hardworking, creative creatures. We must solve problems and improve in order to be happy. Put your soul into something meaningful for yourself, and you will see how your degree of happiness has risen!
2. It's not me, it's all of them.
Our mind tries to make us believe that the cause of our unhappiness is in other people: acquaintances, spouses, parents ... We are ready to scatter accusations left and right, like a baby scatters toys in kindergarten. Of course, it takes two to tango - just as we blame others, so they blame us. The moment we take responsibility for our lives is the foundation of true happiness.
3. In order to be happy, I need to discover the secret of happiness.
The secret is that there are no secrets to happiness or success. No matter how much books, authors, and our own minds may convince us, there are no secret keys to happiness. You yourself create a picture of your future, form a strategy and then work on its implementation.
4. If I had…
Our brain tries to tell us that we would be happier if we had a different job, a different house, a different car… There is nothing wrong with wanting better things and circumstances, but that does not automatically make us happy. They can temporarily cheer you up, but this all passes quickly. Anyone who wants lasting happiness must realize that the barrel of desires is bottomless, and it can never be filled to the top. True happiness comes from within...
5. I love what I have and don't want to change.
Resisting change or trying to take control of everything is doomed to failure. Change is inevitable. You must accept this and learn to swim in the continuous flow of change. The ability to adapt is very important for happiness.
6. If not today, then never.
Our mind often falls into despair and succumbs to disappointment a few steps away from success. Persistence is very important for achieving happiness. You don't know what tomorrow will bring you. Just one day - it may be all it takes to achieve your dreams.
7. I will make a decision when I know exactly what to do.
The more you think, the sooner you reach a dead end. Weighing Risks, Analyzing Opportunities and Adopting a Plan - important factors, but nothing happens until there is a decision and action. We very rarely have complete information to make decisions. Stop doubt! Failure is not the end of the world. Don't let your mind lure you into a total analysis of everything.
8. I know I shouldn't, but...
Our mind tries to deceive us by denying the consequences of our bad habits. This is especially true for health issues. "I know I shouldn't smoke, but it helps me lose weight." Or: “I know I shouldn’t eat this, but if I can’t enjoy life, then why live at all.” Health problems are definitely a challenge to happiness. Don't let your mind trap you in self-justification and indulgence in your weaknesses.
9. Dreams come true for those who are lucky.
The mind tells us tales that we are toys in the hands of fate. This leads to the idea that nothing good can happen in such a life. What our mind regards as luck with others is often the result of invisible long and painstaking work. Believe in your dream with all your heart, and you will be surprised how often luck awaits you along the way.
7 Delusions of Mankind (7 Viral Programs)
1) The world is divided into Good and Evil.
The world is actually neutral, it only obediently realizes our fantasies and thoughts.
2) Life begins at the time of Birth and ends at the time of Death.
Life has always been…is…and will be. Just for bright development, we voluntarily block a part of memory before coming to Earth.
3) Women give birth to children in pain.
Initially, female childbirth was accompanied by at least pleasant sensations, as a maximum ... orgasm.
During the heyday of religious egregors, sex was turned into a sin, childbirth into punishment, and children into a burden and responsibility.
4) There are incurable Diseases.
If you were able to create this disease in your Life, then you can also create Health for yourself.
5) The most effective defense of your interests ... is the Struggle.
In fact, while we are fighting, thinking about the struggle, living in the struggle .... reasons for the struggle will become more and more. And our interests will continue to be threatened. For we create this threat ourselves, with our thoughts. What we think about is what we get.
6) On Earth, there is a limited number of goods that not everyone will get.
In fact, the World will easily create everything for those who do not doubt their desires, who do not limit themselves to the thought .... "there is not enough for everyone."
7) To get something, you need to work hard, or ask someone and be humiliated, or take it from another person.
You can get whatever you want. At the same time, there is absolutely no need to “tell and indicate” to the Universe how to fulfill your Desire. Everything is wonderful with the Universe with creative ideas. Just don't bother her.
The five most common regrets of the dying
The former hospice employee made a kind of rating of the main regrets of people who have come to the very edge of life.
1. I regret that I did not have the courage to live the life that was right for me, and not the life that others expected of me.
This is the most common regret among people. When people realize that their lives are almost over, they can look back and easily see what dreams they had left unfulfilled. Most people barely even attempted half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was only because of the choices they made or didn't make.
It is very important to try to realize at least some of your basic desires on your life path. From the moment you lose your health, it's too late to do anything. Health brings a freedom that very few understand until they lose it.
2. I'm sorry that I worked so hard.
This feeling was experienced by every male patient I cared for. They missed their youth and their relationships. Some women also expressed such regret. But since most of them were of the older generation, they basically did not earn money for the family. All the men I've worked with have deeply regretted spending most his life to the monotonous labor of earning a livelihood.
Simplifying your lifestyle can cut down on the income requirements you think you need. By creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new possibilities.
3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people have suppressed their feelings in order to maintain certain relationships with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became what they would like to see themselves. The emergence of many diseases was associated with experienced feelings of bitterness and resentment.
We cannot control the reactions of others. While people may initially react to the changes you make in a relationship in ways that you don't want, it ultimately takes the relationship to a new, healthier level. It is best to eliminate unhealthy relationships from your life in one way or another.
4. I'm sorry that I didn't keep in touch with my friends.
Often these people did not even realize the full benefit of keeping in touch with their old friends until several weeks before their death, and it was not always possible to track them down. Many have become so immersed in their own lives that they have let their friendships pass them by for many years. There were many deep regrets that their friendship had not been given the time and effort it deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they die.
Any person leading an active lifestyle tends to downplay the importance of friendships. But when you stand on the threshold of death, the material aspects of life lose their meaning. Of course, people want their financial affairs to be in as much order as possible. But it is not money or status that ultimately retains its value. They want to be of some use to those they love. But usually they are already too sick and tired to somehow cope with this task.
5. I wish I had allowed/allowed myself to be happier.
This kind of regret was surprisingly common. Many did not fully understand that their happiness is a matter of choice. They were subject to habits and established ideas. They were in captivity of the ‘comfort’ of a habitual way of life. Because of their fear of change, they pretended to others and to themselves that they were content with their lives.
About luxury living
Maybe, of course, I don’t understand something, but in my opinion, many people, especially the female sex, just went a little crazy - they run after branded things, try to buy all the most expensive things, fit into major companies when they are not, climb out of their skin in order to be a class higher in public, and when coming home to wear ordinary things and listen from parents that there is not enough money.
Where do these dreams of a luxurious easy life come from? About easy money. expensive things, luxurious dates with a million roses and so on?
Why do these people live in a fairy tale, even working as ordinary cashiers or accountants, because it pulls down! having seen enough beautiful pictures their lives against the background of them becomes just gray and mundane. It does not live up to what is offered from the pages of magazines or films.
These fools are pissed off chasing top handbags, taking photos only so that the iPhone is visible, dreaming of a Ferrari or something even cooler without making any effort for this. It seems to me that such persons simply do not believe that they are ordinary Dusi living in small towns and that they will never reach the desired level.
Watch movies where a guy with a girl on hot-air balloon, where he orders the plane to write in the sky "with Good morning”or buys the whole palace so that they are the only guests there, and then sits and sighs ... .. and takes out the guy’s brain and realizes with a frenzy that she deserves better. She wants a Lamborghini or a Lexus, but she can’t even earn a penny, but this does not prevent her from being dissatisfied. They don't do shit, they watch social events, they look at socialites and they also dream - not to do anything, but only to have fun. How the hell do I hate such fools who dream of easy money and beautiful life, lazy, stupid, but sincerely believing that if you only want and do nothing at the same time, then everything will work out.
MANTRA FOR THE OFFENDED
Offended? Then print this text, go to the mirror and read aloud! And with expression! ”I am such an important turkey that I can’t allow someone to act according to their nature if I don’t like it. I am such an important turkey that if someone said or acted differently than I expected, I will punish him with my resentment. Oh, let him see how important it is - my offense, let him receive it as punishment for his "misconduct." After all, I am a very, very important turkey! I do not value my life. I don’t value my life so much that I don’t feel sorry for wasting its priceless time on resentment. I will give up a moment of joy, a moment of happiness, a moment of playfulness, I would rather give this minute to my resentment. And I don't care that these frequent minutes turn into hours, hours into days, days into weeks, weeks into months, and months into years. I do not feel sorry for spending years of my life in resentment - because I do not value my life. I do not know how to look at myself from the outside. I am so unable to look at myself from the side that I will never see my shifted eyebrows, pouting lips, my mournful look. I will never see how ridiculous I am in this state and I will never laugh at his and my own absurdity. Never. After all, I do not know how to look at myself from the outside. I am very vulnerable. I am so vulnerable that I am forced to protect my territory and respond with resentment to everyone who touched it. I'll hang a sign on my forehead "Beware of the angry dog" and just let someone try not to notice it! I will surround my vulnerability with high walls, and I do not care that my vulnerability is not so expensive through them. I am very dependent on others. I am so dependent on others that I will not miss a single look, a single word, a single gesture. I will watch others constantly, I will evaluate their every manifestation in relation to myself and if I decide that it is wrong, then I will show how wrong they are! After all, those that are around and nearby should emphasize my dignity, should set off my greatness, and God forbid, they will do otherwise. I will be offended to hide how much I depend on them, on others. I am someone else's slave. I am a slave to the words and actions of other people. My mood, my feelings, my sense of self depend on them, my masters. Not me - they - are responsible for this. It's not me - they - are to blame for what happens to me. Not me - they - must do something to make it easier for me. Yes, it is not difficult for me to be a puppet - after all, I am someone else's slave. I will inflate an elephant out of a fly. I will take this half-dead fly of someone else's blooper, I will react to it with my resentment. I will not write in my diary how beautiful the world is, I will write how meanly they treated me. I will not tell my friends how much I love them, I will devote half the evening to how much they offended me. I will have to pour so much of my own and other people's strength into a fly so that it becomes an elephant. After all, it is easy to dismiss a fly or even not notice it, but an elephant is not. So I inflate the flies to the size of elephants. I am a beggar. I am so poor that I cannot find in myself a drop of generosity - to forgive, a drop of self-irony - to laugh, a drop of generosity - not to notice, a drop of wisdom - not to be caught, a drop of love - to accept. I simply do not have these drops, because I am very, very limited and poor. I am very unhappy. I am so unhappy that the words and actions of other people constantly hurt my unhappiness. After all, I am a very important turkey, but I don’t value my life, I don’t know how to look at myself from the outside and I like to make elephants out of a fly, I am very vulnerable, dependent on the opinions of others and beggars, in fact. Do not offend me, better pity. Because I'm very unhappy. Do you still want to play grudge?
A letter from a girl from Germany to a friend in Russia. Or rather, an excerpt.
Punctuation, spelling and other simple turns of the author are saved without
changes. Further on behalf of the author.
… I’m walking, so I’m shopping, I’m looking: a hedgehog is lying on the side of the road. Not a ball, but
back and paws up. And the muzzle is covered in blood: the car, probably,
knocked down. Here in the suburbs, they just don’t crush anyone! Hedgehogs, foxes, snakes..
sometimes even roe deer come across. I felt sorry for him for some reason: I wrapped it in
newspaper, brought home. I call Helmut, I ask what to do? He told me:
take it to the hospital, there is a veterinary department there. Okay, I'll take it.
I went into the office. Meets some kind of Aibolit pumped over: two meters
growth, two sheets can be sewn from a dressing gown. Are you tired?! he asks. Here
perishing, think, accurately: moose. And count up: I forgot how German hedgehog. Then already in
looked at the dictionary. Well, I shove him the poor fellow:
they say, such a shaise happened, cranken belly, heal, come on. called himself
elk - love hedgehogs ..
So he turned out to be Aibolit in life: his face was twisted, he almost cries
poor thing. I wiped it with tampons, almost licked it and sanded the injection. Crap,
I think a little hedgehog of his needles. And took it to the operating room. Wait, he says
about an hour.
Well, it’s kind of dumb to leave - I’m waiting. An hour and a half later, this moose crawls out.
The scoreboard is mournful, as if my relative is bent here.
And he broadcasts: they say, how good it is that you brought the poor creature in time!
The injury is supposed to be very serious: he will live, but he will remain an invalid.
I'm quietly freaking out from such care. And then the full am ende begins.
Aibolit continues: For a couple of days the patient (note bene: hedgehog!) will have to lie down
in the intensive care unit (for hedgehogs, n /// x?!!!), and then you can
take away. I probably had it written on my face: Fuck me at home
disabled hedgehog?!
He catches on: But maybe this is burdensome and too much for you.
responsibly (yo-mine!!!). Then you can take the animal to the shelter
(b///i!!!). If, nevertheless, you decide to shelter him, you will need some
bureaucratic formalities..
I understand that you can’t laugh: the German is sad, like at the Fuhrer’s funeral.
I extinguish my grin and ask: — A guardianship agreement (over a hedgehog, e///t!!!)? -
answers, as well as a testimonial from the magistrate. I can hardly resist
don't roll, I ask. This bestialist in all seriousness answers: - No,
reference to your family, fraulein.
The document must contain information about whether you or members of the
your family in violence against animals (with all my might I drive the image out of my head
Helmut, rudely cohabiting with a hedgehog!). In addition, the magistrate must
confirm whether you have material and housing conditions sufficient for
animal custody (are we too poor for a hedgehog, s///ka!!!). I have,
Damn, I still had the strength to say: they say, I will consult with relatives before
take such a responsible step as adopting a hedgehog. And I ask how much
do I owe for the operation? The answer got me going.
“Oh no,” he says, “you don’t owe anything! We have a federal
program to rescue animals affected by humans. And then check it out:
“On the contrary, you will receive a bonus of one hundred euros for promptly contacting
us. You will be sent money by postal order (... eight, nine - out!!!).
We are grateful for your kindness. Danke Shen, Gutorechzig Fraulein,
aufwiderzein!" In general, I went home in a complete frenzy, I no longer had the strength to laugh.
And then something became sad: I remembered our hospital when my aunt was lying
after a heart attack. How she carried food three times a day, linen, dishes;
begged to be examined and at least anointed with greenery ..
As a result, such a maxim was born: “It is better to be a hedgehog in Germany than a man
in Russia".
Energy exchange Man-Woman.
“According to books, tantra masters, psycho-trainers, etc., when men and women meet, they become connected (energy) vessels. And, according to the law of communicating vessels, an interchange (energy exchange) begins between them.
By nature, a man receives energy from above (idea), and a woman from below (power). To implement an idea, a man needs strength, and energetically it can only be obtained from a woman. And a woman, being a bank of power, cannot spend her power on action, she can only give it away, since initially she receives only from transmission.
There is almost always an energy exchange between a man and a woman - this is laid down by nature itself ...
From the day of birth, every boy has a mother who inspires him, giving him strength. maternal love, sister, first love, second, third ... employee, girlfriend - in every woman a man will look for that source that will fill him so that everything turns out easily and with inspiration.
Fine, but this is just the first part, there is no spillover yet, because there is no exchange itself. Having received the strength to implement his idea, and starting to implement it, a man must return to the woman (financially, with gifts, care, physical help) the equivalent of her strength so that the woman is inspired to the next bestowal.
And so on ad infinitum.
Love.
If a woman is filled with Love, then absolutely Everything is subject to her.
Everything for a man to take place, and this is Everything, will happen naturally and naturally. So, a lot depends on you and the strength of your responsibility, dear women, because it is your potential that attracts and shapes your chosen one. It is you who are responsible for the purity of your thoughts and emotions, inner values, the state of harmony and joy within yourself, and, of course, the state of being filled with love. » © Natalia Trukhan
How to love a woman?
A woman loves to be taken care of, offer help when she is understood. A woman really appreciates when a man is devoted. A woman is happy when she knows that she is special in the life of her man, when he distinguishes her from other women.
A woman has moments when, after an emotional upsurge, all-encompassing love, she suddenly feels useless, lonely, she can be capricious, like a child, say to herself that she is not beautiful, not loved, that she is bad. Men should understand this feminine feature, not get angry and give her support. It is very important for a woman to hear that she is still loved, that she is beautiful, that she is needed, she needs confirmation from a man. After a while, she will recover, but all women experience such periods of emotional decline.
Flowers, gifts - for a woman an indicator that she is special. For a woman, it doesn’t make much difference whether a man gives her one flower or a whole bouquet, so it’s better for her that a man gives a big gift not once a year, but small ones, but often. In Vedic culture, a woman is compared to a child who loves being pampered and often hugged.
A man loves more when they praise not his appearance, but when they say how good he is, how well he provides for everyone, how priceless his help is when they glorify the qualities of a man in his career, in some achievements. It is not necessary for a woman to say that she is well done, how well she works, she will be pleased to hear about how beautiful, tender, beloved, desirable she is when her feminine qualities are praised .. ©
In a relationship between a man and a woman, the following are important:
OPENNESS, BENEFICIENCY, HONESTY, manifestation of LOVE, CARE, SPONTANEOUS FEELINGS, RESPECT and compromises.
Success is not a matter of chance, you can evolve to create relationships filled with love:
1. Work on yourself, on your character. After all, the qualities of your character affect your relationship. In interaction, a very important skill is the ability to FORGIVE.
2. Take responsibility for your life! Don't expect someone else to make you happy. Be a person, meet your own needs. (After all, even if a partner loves you, this does not mean that he knows what you want)
3. Analyze the model of family relations of your parents. What you like, what you don't like. And create an individual model of your happy relationship.
4. A woman must remain a woman, and man-man! It is important for a woman to understand whether she can respect this man. A man understands love more realistically, through actions. A woman through emotions. And also in relationships, it is important for a woman to learn logic, and for a man, intuition.
Be with the person you are ready to ACCEPT and LOVE for who they are.
“Well, aren’t you interested in who I loved before you?”
- No. It does not matter.
“And even if you knew, wouldn’t you be jealous?”
- Be jealous? Why?
“What if I thought about some woman from my past while I was with you?” Wouldn't you be worried that I might leave you for her? Worry?
- No.
“Probably you don’t love me.
“You don't understand what you're talking about. Love has nothing to do with jealousy and fear of losing. I love you, but if you want to leave because you cannot forget another woman, that will be fine. This will be true. Because if you stayed, that would mean you're lying. If you leave, it will simply mean that we are not right for each other, and it's good that you left. Because if you stayed, you would take the place of someone who suits me. The one who suits me will not leave. You don't have to worry about anything. Everything is always good.
- You love so strangely ... It’s like you don’t know how to become attached at all, you don’t get jealous ..
You still don't understand what you're talking about. Love has nothing to do with attachment. To become attached and jealous means not to love Yourself. To consider yourself worse than someone, to be afraid that such as you are - you - will not be loved. Compare. You can't compare yourself to anyone. You are you. You Have Your Life. She is given to you. This is Dar. Don't waste it comparing yourself to others. It's a delusion. You must only look at yourself. Then you won't be wrong. Then no one will leave, because you will see right away whether this person is right for you ....
There is no secret ingredient. To make something special, you just have to believe that it is something special. © Kung Fu Panda
Tips for Aspiring Entrepreneurs from Richard Branson
1. You do not learn to walk according to instructions. You learn it by doing it and you fall. And it is in those falls that you learn how not to fall again.
2. Entrepreneurship doesn't just mean getting another client. And that doesn't mean just working for yourself. Neither does it mean that you have to become Number One. And it doesn't necessarily mean making a lot of money. On the contrary, entrepreneurship is about turning what you love and what inspires you in life into capital. That is why you can do so much for this and move forward.
3. Common sense is much more important than higher education.
4. Circumstances and opportunities are changeable. The only constant is change itself.
5. Friendship with the enemy is a good rule for both business and life in general.
6. The public is absolutely critical.
7. Don't promise what you can't keep and keep everything you can promise.
8. Details are always important - whether you run an airline, a restaurant or any other company.
9. One-day success doesn't mean you'll get a free lunch every day after that.
10. Every risk you take is worth it if it is the cause of your success and the good life.
11. The most important thing when considering a new idea is not to get bogged down in complexity. Any fool can do something difficult. It's much harder to do something simple.
12. Never do anything if it means no sleep at night.
13. Success for me is when you were able to create something that you can be proud of.
Top 35 Inspirational Books:
1 Robin Sharma - The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
2. Douglas Adams - The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
3. Kryon - The Journey Home
4. Vladimir Chepovoy, Anna Clear - Crossroads
5 Malcolm Gladwell - The Tipping Point
6. Richard Bach - A seagull named Jonathan Livingston
7. Antoine de Saint-Exupery - The Little Prince
8. Janusz Leon Wisniewski - Loneliness in the Net
9. Bodo Schaefer - Laws of Winners
10. Paulo Coelho - The Alchemist
11. Rhonda Byrne - Mystery
12. Mikhail Bulgakov - Master and Margarita
13. Erich Maria Remarque - Three comrades
14. John Gray - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
15. Robert Pirsig - Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
16. Donald Trump - Never give up
17. Richard Branson - To hell with everything, take it and do it!
18. M. Weller - The Adventures of Major Zvyagin
19. Vladimir Dovgan - I was a beggar, became rich
20. Audrey Niffenegger - The Time Traveler's Wife
21. Elizabeth Gilbert - Yes. Pray. Be in love.
22. Naomi Wolf - The Beauty Myth
23. Anna Gavalda - 35 kilos of hope
24. Lobsang Rampa - You are eternal
25. Robert Kiyosaki - Cashflow Quadrant
26. Stephen Covey - 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
27. Timothy Ferris - 4 hour work week
28. Peter Mail - A Year in Provence
29. Levi - The art of being yourself
30. Hermann Hesse - Steppenwolf
31. Carlos Castaneda - The Wheel of Time
32. Jack London - Martin Eden
33. Richard F. Feynman - Of course you are joking, Mr. Feynman!
34. Maria Klimova - Conversations in the sandbox, or Stories from the life of mothers
35. Moussa Lissy - Everything, everything, everything is in your hands!
Here is the method I use when in doubt whether to do this or that.
I take some object and think - it will fall with this side up, so I will do it, with the other side - I will do it that way. I throw an item. What will fall out is not very important. It is important to observe the feelings. If “do this” fell out and it is right for me, then with joy you can do it. And if “do it this way” falls out and a feeling of regret begins to ache inside that such an option has fallen out, then you can do as you truly want (“this way”).
ADDITION.
You can even come up with some special ritual for yourself so that the decision-making process is more interesting and colorful for us. For example, before tossing an object, you can bring it to the heart area, held in namaste between the palms (turning on the heart center), and then throw it up with your left hand (which is associated with the right hemisphere of the brain, which is responsible for the irrational intuitive sphere).
A global look at the "Games of the Gods". Interview with the author and director of films Sergei Strizhak
Research shows that when we live in harmony with what inspires us, our activities become more productive. We become more active, diligent, creative. In other words, it is much easier for us to succeed.
Think about what success really is. Society could define it in monetary or property terms. But does material matter matter if you are not really satisfied with your activities? True success is something related to the activity of a person, his achievements in the personal and professional spheres.
Here is some information about what happens to your brain and body, depending on whether your activity inspires you or not.
Life in accordance with life values
Behaviorist Dr. John DeMartini recently discovered that we all have a unique set of values that play a significant role in guiding our behavior and self-image. He came to the conclusion that all our positive and negative emotions are a system feedback in order to understand whether we live in accordance with our value system. They are the things that really matter to us in life.
DeMartini found that when we move away from our values, we are more prone to additive behavior, self-destruction, and creating difficulties for ourselves. When we adhere to a value system, our memory works better, we are more focused and productive.
There is a section in our brain called the reticular activating system that constantly filters information according to our value hierarchy. Take, for example, a husband and wife walking down the street. If relationships are important for a man in the first place, and a woman loves animals very much, then the husband will initially notice the couple holding hands, and the wife will pay attention to the man with the dog.
Our brain is constantly working for our value system!
Creativity
Creative magic happens when you have achieved cognitive resonance between the conscious and the unconscious. This resonance plays an important role throughout your life. When you do not live according to your values, you will inevitably find yourself in an internal conflict, because your consciousness and subconscious are not in agreement.
Dr. Kahn from the University of Arizona found that a person is much more likely to become creative if his mind is open to the new, and his mood is upbeat. By doing what inspires us, we achieve both of these things.
Inspiration vs Despair
Dr. Demartini also describes the two main driving forces that guide a person. He says that the motivator is either inspiration or desperation.
The source of despair is thoughts based on fear, and the people who are guided by them are constantly in an effort to avoid pain. They are more likely to succumb to difficulties and give up when problems approach.
Sources of inspiration - love and authenticity. Guided by inspiration, “we are more likely to cope with the pain and enjoy the achievement of the goal” (Dr. Demartini). We see the bigger picture in this case and are able to overcome obstacles to achieve success.
Openness versus closedness
When we are truly inspired by the path to the goal, our perception changes. We're less likely to see failures as failures because we'll be too busy seeing them as opportunities for growth. This plays an important role in overcoming the prejudices that are programmed in the subconscious.
In addition, researchers Schnell, Brandstatter and Knopfel conducted an experiment showing that people are more open when they are engaged in an activity that inspires them.
In other words, we are more likely to be prepared for the challenges that arise if we enjoy what we do. It is also more likely that fear of the unknown will be replaced by curiosity, which will definitely improve the learning process.
Neurochemical reaction and our body
Mind and body are closely related. When we participate in activities or learning that we enjoy, the brain produces more serotonin and dopamine. The concentration of these hormones increases when a person is engaged in an interesting business for him. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter responsible for activity, memory, satisfaction, and motivation. Serotonin is important for Have a good mood, appetite, transmission of impulses to nerve cells.
When we are doing something that we perceive as a threat to values, we produce higher doses of cortisol and substance P. The former is widely known as a stress-related hormone, and substance P is responsible for transmitting pain information to the brain.
Over time, we are either elated or depleted of hormones produced by the brain and affecting the entire body.
Self-esteem
When you are sincere and open, your self-esteem increases because you have accepted your uniqueness and the things you value. You are more likely to believe in yourself, be calm under pressure, and speak your mind when doing what interests you.
When you live outside of your values, your subconscious sends a signal that you are not worthy of being who you are. The negative feelings that accompany low self-esteem are a feedback signal telling you to stop denying what is important to you.
Personal self-realization is mainly associated with the ability to set and achieve internal goals.
Change won't happen overnight
Remember that sustainable change for the better takes time. No matter how much the above information will resonate with you, a smooth transition requires consistency, patience, and perseverance. Taking the right steps will help make your goal a reality.
- Define your goals. If money had no value, what would you like to do for the rest of your life? You can always find a way to turn your dreams into money.
- Do your research and make a plan. What steps need to be taken? How much money to save? How much time per week should be dedicated to this? If it's really important, you will go to your goal and succeed. Creating a timeline is also helpful.
- Align your current job with your values. Instead of resisting what currently makes you work, just evaluate what benefits it brings to your long-term plan. By seeing the benefits in your current job, you will be more energetic and productive in your pursuit of your goals.
You may have to work 10 more hours a week to fulfill your desires. But doing the job of your dreams will give you strength and meaning in life.
Don't forget that sometimes you have to do what you need to do until you can't do what you want.
Live the way you want, not the way you get. Invent ways to change lives, not excuses. Seek motivation, not manipulation. Work for excellence, not for competition. Listen to your inner voice, and not to the motley opinions of others.
This is how you can inspire people around you! Here's how you can become the best option himself!
Below you will find a few more ideas to help you start inspiring everyone around you:
- Be yourself and be honest with yourself.– In this crazy world that is trying its best to make you like the rest, find the courage to be incredible, amazing, unique yourself. Accept that you have ideas, power and beauty that no one else has. Be the person you can be - the best version of yourself - on own conditions. And most importantly, be honest with yourself. If you can hardly talk yourself into something, isn't it better to give it up altogether? I'm not saying it's going to be easy - because when it comes to living an honest and sincere life, you start to realize that the only thing that's harder than trying to live someone else's life is learning to truly live your own.
- Don't give up on what you love.– Participate in something that you care about. This can be anything from participating in a local public life or an active role in a religious community to membership in a hobby club or heading into an interesting job. In either case, the psychological outcome will be the same as you are participating in something that you believe in, that you like, and that you love. This is the fastest way to fill your life with happiness and meaning - and believe me, it's hard not to find inspiration next to someone who does their job with passion and love.
- Express your enthusiasm.– To inspire other people, you have to be a passionate person. You can significantly influence other people simply by publicly expressing your admiration for a particular topic and showing your passion for it. Such passion is contagious, if only because it arouses interest in others. People start to wonder why you love what you love so much, and some of them even start making time for the topic that motivates you so much.
- Be the master of your craft.“People look at deeds much more than they listen to words. So be someone worthy of emulation. Most people are inspired by great musicians, writers, artists, public speakers, entrepreneurs, engineers, mothers, fathers, athletes, and so on. Do you know what they all have in common? They are masters of their craft. Think about it - what's the point of doing something if you're not going to do it right? And therefore, try to be a master in everything - both in work and in hobbies. Build a good reputation for yourself - a reputation as a master of your craft.
- Focus on developing your character.– Try to worry more about your own character and personality than about your reputation. After all, your identity is yourself, and your reputation is just what someone else thinks of you. And really good people end up doing well, no matter what they say behind their backs.
- Worry about people.“People don’t care how much knowledge you have, as long as they don’t understand that you care about them.
- Try to bring out the best in people.“As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Our main desire is to have someone in our lives who can inspire us to be who we can be and know it.” If people know that you expect great things from them, they often become capable of them.
- Lead by personal example.“Either practice what you preach, or quit preaching. Let deeds speak instead of words! And if you want the world around you to change, become the force that will bring change into it. Because if you really want to inspire people to do something, then that “something” must be an essential part of your life. You don't have to be an expert at this, but you do it with love and passion.
- Talk about what others only think about. We are connected to each other in many different ways, and the most important of them is our thoughts. But because of fear or excessive modesty, we are often embarrassed to express them out loud. But if you have the courage to say out loud what others are only thinking, you can be the glue that holds people together.
- Make people feel positive. - People rarely remember what you do, but they always remember how you made them feel. Try to notice what you like in other people and tell them about it. Recognize and appreciate people who were able to break out of the routine and succeed in something. As Goethe once said, “Consider a man as he appears, and you will make him worse. But treat him as if he has already become what he could be - and you will make him what he should be.
- Help people heal.– Instead of judging people by their past, support them and help them enter the future. Remember - our deeds sooner or later return to us. And when you make someone else's life better, you improve your own life. Do something worthwhile—something that will help others to be happier, or at least suffer less. We all appreciate unexpected help - and especially those who give it to us.
- Share lessons learned from wins and losses. Help those around you in any way you can. And if you have valuable information, don't keep it to yourself, share it. And remember, you know a lot more than you think. Dig into your rich experience and share your wisdom and unique perspective. Be generous. share the story of both your successes and failures. People around love it. They will understand that they are not the only ones who had to face certain problems.
- Remain calm in difficult situations.“The way we handle difficult situations says a lot about our self-control. People notice how much the pressure of social discomfort must build up around you before you lose control of yourself and the situation. President Obama, who comes across as generally calm and collected, once said during a White House speech, "In the next 100 days, I might consider losing my temper a little." Naturally, these words made him even calmer and more collected in the eyes of viewers. If you do not lose your head in difficult situations, people begin to see in you a person with an iron will - and are drawn to you.
- Focus on the positive.– Be content with what you have now and let your positivity light your path to the future. What happens to us is not good or bad. We ourselves give it an emotional coloring. And remember - no matter how things turn out in the end, everything goes as it should. You will either succeed or you will learn something. So be positive, appreciate success, and learn from failure. And know that your positivity inspires those around you.
- Keep your promises and always tell the truth.- Inspire people with your reliability and passion for the truth. If you say you're going to do something, do it! If you say you're going somewhere, be there! If you say that you are experiencing certain feelings - they must be real! And if it's not, at least don't lie. A bitter truth is always better than a sweet lie.
- Listen carefully to other people. Make people feel important and inspire them by showing that they really matter to you. Look at them, listen to them, and forget about mobile phone. In our fast-paced world, people especially appreciate those who know how to listen.
- Be clear.- Secrets and riddles do not inspire. Say what you think and think what you say. Share your point of view with those around you. Looking into the eyes of the interlocutor during a conversation is one of the most inspiring types of personal communication. This in a sense makes you closer, and attracts attention.
- Be faithful to those who love you.“There is nothing more inspiring than the unbreakable love and affection between two people. What's more, your commitment to long-term intimate relationships creates a healthy foundation for everything else.
And remember, you already have everything you need to inspire others. You just need to find it. So start inspiring others own life and how you live it.
When we were kids, we shared a room with my brother. There were few places. Shared table and a bookcase. Each had his own wall, next to which stood his bed. The first thing I saw when I woke up in the morning were portraits of my idols pasted over green wallpaper. Four-time Olympic champion Finnish runner Lasse Viren and Soviet polar explorer, scientist Otto Schmidt. These were my icons. The first inspired me to wake up at six in the morning and run. The second is to read and dream a lot.
It is harder for adults to find inspiration than for children. Experience prevents you from believing in a miracle, and without it, inspiration turns into a simple calculation. For me, inspiration is when experience and dreams of a desired future come together in the present. When this happens, strength and confidence are tripled.
Among the skills that the 100 day trains is the ability to inspire yourself and inspire others. You can also do this on your own. First, write down your definition of inspiration. During the day, notice what inspired you? Think about how inspiration relates to mood and performance. Get to know yourself better. Our possibilities are an iceberg. We tend to be content with only those that are visible above the surface of everyday life.
"Stodnevka" is an environment for development. Having plunged into it, in 100 days you will be able not only to achieve your goal, but also to understand yourself, clarify your values, learn to enjoy life here and now, and not someday, when your wish comes true.
You don't have to put in extra effort. The rule of small steps helps to move towards goals calmly and continuously.
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I read the article and thought, what exactly inspires me? The first thing that came to mind is banal, simple and complex at the same time - interesting books, great music, good movies, etc. etc... yes, but what exactly??? And then I had a stupor - among the many books that I read, the endless number of melodies that I listened to and the many films that I saw, among all that accompanies and inspires me all my life, touching my soul, giving birth in me to the most wonderful feelings, it suddenly became incredibly difficult to single out one or two, or even three ... as if everything, everything, all this plunged into the bottomless abyss of my memory and any name that appears for a moment from this abyss only more excited and forced to make me nervous, constantly holding me in the grip of the thought that there is something else, more important, more beautiful ... And suddenly I was let go ... I suddenly remembered how I was struck by the sound of an autumn leaf slowly falling to the ground, in while there was noise from passing cars around ... I remembered what a feeling of indescribable delight I experience every time my gaze sinks into the bottomless divine gaze of a child who looks with trust and love ... I remembered how unbelievable a pleasant warmth covers me when, in those infrequent moments when I call my parents on Skype, they begin to quarrel and complain about each other despite the fact that they have been together for 56 years ... I remembered what a feeling of incredible wealth and happiness it covered me when I looked at my children sleeping peacefully after a long day ... and I realized that it doesn’t matter what specifically inspires me, it’s important that everything that inspires me makes me a little kinder, a little wiser and from this, a little happier...
I decided to write all this and posted this post on my page on the social network, because I would like to participate in the 100-day event, which starts on September 21 and wanted to win participation in it, but could not complete necessary condition to participate in the drawing ... Anyway, I was pleased to do this work, because it is to her that I owe the fact that once again I reminded myself what makes me happy.
And I wish good luck and drive to all participants of the 100-day event!
Karina, thanks for posting.
I don't understand what condition you failed to fulfill?
First, Armen - list
"- Make a list of places, music, books, poetry, movies, videos, events, events that inspire you."
What a wonderful question! It's weird that I never thought about it...
And it turned out that this is not the easiest question. What inspires me? To begin with, it is probably worth understanding - what is inspiration?
Wikipedia says this: “- a special state of a person, which is characterized, on the one hand, by high productivity, on the other hand, by a huge rise and tension of human strength. It is a typical feature and an integral element of creativity.
"State high performance and high rise ”means for me always that I follow my own path in life, follow my destiny. As if from Above, someone “breathes” strength and the desire to create into me.
And what exactly should I do in my life to enter this state?
As it turned out, all my sources are in the field of sensations:
1. Insights - which come to mind in response to a question. Here you sit and don't know what to do... and then all of a sudden - and you understand! And it's very inspiring!
2. Communication - meaningful communication with thinking people, in which you can create some new thought or understanding together. Such joint creativity brings great inspiration!
3. Children - their questions, remarks, their energy and tirelessness - all this is very inspiring. Children give a huge creative charge and constantly throw up new tasks to work on themselves.
4. Nature - for me especially autumn, its variety of colors, smells of the forest, freshness, weather changes - for me this is a huge source of inspiration for changes - new thoughts come, and poems, and most importantly - the vision of goals is updated!
5. Cleanliness and loneliness - a feeling of freshness, humidity, pleasant smells, order and comfort in the house, external and internal silence - this is an absolutely ideal space for inspiration to come.
6. Good Movies - There's one movie that I watch several times a year, and that's Eat Pray Love. And every time I find a new thought for myself, which opens up a new direction of thoughts.
7. Books - I don't read much now, but there is one author whose books always inspire me - Paulo Coelho. For example, I read his Brida for almost a year, taking long breaks for reflection. This book inspired me to make big changes.
8. Good coffee in a good cafe - when these two conditions are combined, I enter a special state when answers to all questions come easily, and the essence of what is happening becomes clear. Once a week I make sure to use this source of inspiration.
9. Success and benefits are the main thing. Personal success inspires new achievements. The success of others adds confidence in yourself. Helping others to succeed is the most inspiring thing. When you feel your contribution to someone else's success, understand your benefits and hear words of gratitude - this creates unrealistic inspiration!
Armen, thank you very much for your question! :)
Interesting article, you write interesting!
